Constipation is really no fun for anyone. No fun for baby or child, no fun for the parent who cleans the clogged toilet, no fun for the sister or brother who waits while someone works on solving the problem in the room next door. In general, constipation is a frustrating, sometimes embarrassing, and often chronic problem for young children. Here are a few ideas to get rid of the no-fun part and ways to protect your children, support them positively, and avoid dangers that can rarely come from over-the-counter (OTC) medications.
Before you reach for OTC medications, consider what is normal and what is not normal when it comes to poop. I usually break this down for children (and parents) in visual terms. I talk about things you find outside.
In general, poop in the toilet can look like a pond, a snake, a log, or a pebble. When it comes to poop, we’re always looking for snakes. It seems to me that framed this way, school age children can do a better job knowing if they’re constipated or not. We’re looking for Snakes in the Lake, people! Frame it this way with your child and perhaps they will be more likely to get a glimpse of what they produce in the toilet?
In my experience, parents worry a lot about hard infant or toddler poop in the diaper but constipation sneaks up on many families to school-aged children. After children are toilet trained and wiping themselves (around age 4 or 5) many parents no longer gaze in the toilet bowl. Long gone are the days of staring at every diaper as parents lose track of the daily poops, how often they poop, and how a child feels when pooping. But first, some definitions:
What is Constipation?
Any child can be constipated, and it seems to run in families, but from the beginning it’s exceedingly rare to find constipation in breast-fed babies. That being said, some kids just come out more prone to constipation than others. Constipation isn’t entirely straightforward and obvious to many of us either. It’s not just hard poop but rather a combination of hard poop and poop that doesn’t come out every day. The reason a typical child gets constipated is they lack good fiber in their diet, the poop sits in their colon longer than normal, and they hold the poop in because it hurts when it comes out. The viscous cycle of lacking fiber, having tummy pain, not wanting to poop, and poop getting dehydrated in the colon perpetuates and cycles and then constipation can set in.
- For infants, constipation is hard, packed stools that come out less often than every other day. When poop comes out the poop can look like pebbles (or logs) in the diaper and even have a tiny bit of blood on the outside from an infant straining and tearing their skin when pushing it out. First line of defense is adding a bit of juice (1-2 oz pear or prune daily) to diet. If over 6 months, increase foods with high fiber (mango, pear, prune) & decrease constipating ones (rice, cereals, banana, carrot, potato).
- In toddlers and preschoolers, constipation often occurs because of a more picky diet (normal!) that is deplete in fiber and water married with confusion or battles and pain around the time of stooling as children potty train. Some kids just start holding their poop in as they worry and/or learn to poop independently on the toilet. Constipation is defined as hard, painful or dry poops (logs/pebbles) that come less often than every 3 days. But if preschoolers are starting to hold their poop in during this time, it’s a good time to work diligently for a daily soft poop, increasing fruits/veggies/whole grains to ensure you don’t start the viscous cycle.
- For school-aged children over age 4 constipation diagnosis requires 2 or more of the following symptoms (occurring at least once a week for two months)
• At least one episode of fecal incontinence (leaking poop) per week.
• History of retentive posturing or a child holding their poop in rather than going poop when they feel they need to.
• History of painful or hard bowel movements.
• Presence of a large fecal mass in the rectum (doctor would feel this on a quick rectal exam with their gloved-finger).
• History of large-diameter stools that may obstruct the toilet.
KNOW THIS: constipation is a common reason to see the pediatrician (up to 1 in 20 visits are for constipation) so don’t be shy if you’re worried about your child’s poop. The longer you wait to do something about this, the harder the poop may get and potentially the longer it will take to correct your child’s habits.
Medications For Constipation In Children:
In general I would say that if you use an OTC medication for your child’s constipation for more than 2 times, I think it’s worth seeing the pediatrician. There are often tips we can provide and exam findings that can help guide how to support your child’s pooping habits and help make the process of constipation end faster. If a child has been constipated for months, know that it may take months to correct the problem. Using medications for constipation are not typically a one-time fix. With constipation the muscles in the rectum and colon can stretch out and will need regular poop flying through every day for weeks to months to enable them to return to normal size.
- Stool softeners: Stool softeners are found as powders, suppositories (ie glycerin), or liquids (ie lactulose). Softeners work to literally just loosen and soften the poop. The most commonly asked about softener these days is polyethylene glycol. Although it’s not FDA approved for use under age 17 a 2009 FDA committee didn’t find significant risks for children. That being said, I would always talk with your child’s doctor before using at any age. Polyethylene glycol is an odorless, tasteless powder that dissolves in water. It works by binding to water so that water ingested can’t leave the intestines, colon, and rectum. Parents titrate to effect — meaning you use the amount of powder every day to help support your child having a daily snake in the lake (soft, daily poop). Now to be honest, some kids can detect the medicine in water despite the tasteless claims. I hear, “the water tastes slippery” or “I can taste it on tip of my tongue” so I suggest dissolving the powder in 6-8 oz water and then adding a splash of juice. You have to give it with water so it’s got good ample water around to work! Used daily (often for days or weeks) the powder binds to water and disallows the colon to dehydrate the poop. Therefore the poop that comes out is soft and often helps produce less painful pooping. I encourage families to wean back on the dose over a series of weeks (for example go from 1 capful –> 1/2 cap for a couple weeks–> 1/4 cap and then no medicine at all) while getting good exercise, sitting on toilet to poop daily, and working on great fiber sources in meals. While there is no reason to think polyethylene glycol is addictive, families sometimes worry about dependence, as do pediatricians, since it’s an easier fix for families than working on daily poops after breakfast, changes in diet that include great natural fiber-rich foods, and good potty habits. Like any med, check in with your doctor every 6 months your child is taking it regularly!
- Enemas: Enemas are often needed for children who have poop stains in their underwear or poop accidents because there is a hard ball of stool in their rectum that poop is leaking around. The enema will break that ball up and help your children get rid of it. I would ALWAYS recommend seeing a pediatrician before using an enema to ensure it’s the right thing to do (it can be not only messy, but embarrassing and traumatizing for both children and parents who aren’t comfortable). Often a child will need a quick rectal exam first to ensure normal muscle tone and a good reason for using an enema in the first place (hard ball of stool in the rectum). There are FDA warnings about safety of some enemas (Sodium Phosphate) if used too frequently so review dose and type of enema with nurse or doctor you plan to use prior!
- Laxatives: Laxatives are stimulant medicines that trigger the intestines to push the poop through. Laxatives come in easy powders or capsules or even chocolate squares. In general, I don’t recommend families use a laxative alone for children with constipation because causing the intestines to move and cramp against hard balls of poop can be painful. In general laxatives are used to “clean out” a child’s bowels of hard poop in combination with stool softeners so children don’t have as much pain. If you need to use a laxative more than 1-2 times, review the care plan with your child’s pediatrician.
OTC Safety Red Flags: Reasons To See Doctor Right Away
Although constipation usually doesn’t require urgent or emergent medical visits, some belly symptoms do:
- Severe abdominal pain that causes your child to double over in pain. Typically, constipation doesn’t cause this (although it can). Call your healthcare provider right away if your child has extreme abdominal pain.
- Blood in vomit. Especially larger amounts. Please check out this helpful First Aid guide for managing vomiting in children.
- Blood in stool. Blood can be bright red to black in appearance. Sometime constipation causes small amounts of red blood on toilet tissue from tearing, but any blood inside the poop or blood in the toilet requires a visit.
- Dangerous dehydration. May include high fevers lasting many days, a large amount of diarrhea, fast heart rate, dizziness with standing, decreased skin turgor (tone, firmness), dry mouth, decreased urine output, lack of tears, unusually deep breathing, lethargy and/or irritability.
- Risk of a toxic ingestion causing tummy pain. Although this may seem obvious, if you think that your child may have consumed a toxic household substance, call the Poison Control Center hotline immediately: 1-800-222-1222. Make note of that important “1” — it would be so much easier to remember if all two’s!
I’ll write more on PREVENTING constipation in the upcoming week!
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Lee Bass, MD says
In my experience as a pediatric gastroenterologist- some good practical advice can help a lot of parents and children. Once you start using the stool softener to make the stool easier to come out, it is important to practice the act of sitting on the toilet. I ask my patients to sit for 3-5 minutes after breakfast and dinner and try to poop. This takes advantage of the gastrocolic reflex and the children are more likely to have success during that time. It is important children have their feet on a flat surface so they can generate the push. In addition, many children don’t know how to push. I recommend blowing a pinwheel, blowing on a noisemaker or blowing on their thumb to help them bear down. These are nice practical tips that any family can do easily. Thank you for writing about an important subject.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Thanks, Dr Bass. Completely agree! I say the same thing (re gastrocolic reflex) and it does really help parents understand and motivate to use the opportunity that when you fill your stomach your colon wants to make room.
Will include this in the upcoming post on prevention and tips for supporting kids…thanks for tip about blowing pinwheel, etc as I’d not heard that.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
And yes, to the feet on a surface. With high toilets many children need a stool for their feet even after they start Kindergarten!
Lexie says
Wow, we see so many kids in our clinic who have trouble with constipation. It seems to be a never ending battle with some kids. Thank you for this post.
David Eaton, ARNP says
Great comprehensive post on constipation – and good tips from Dr. Bass.
This is such a prevalent issue in all children; and especially so with developmental disabilties. This post (and the one next week – can’t wait!) should be “recycled” like every 6 months just to keep it on the forefront of parents… AND PROVIDERS… minds.
Summer Ostlund says
What are your thoughts about constipation and food allergies? Our daughter is 3 and we struggled with constipation with her and severe tantrums from pain related to constipation when she would go without pooping. Recently we tried an elimination diet and when she avoids a number of foods (gluten, dairy, eggs, soy, corn) she poops everyday and is feeling so much better. Life has been such a roller coaster I am relieved to see her feeling better even if it requires such attention to what foods she eats.
Also, so hard to get her to drink water, would love tips for that in your next column.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Summer,
Certainly anecdotally, I have seen many children with food sensitivities get constipated and improve after avoiding certain foods and food trigger. With a sensitivity or intolerance the bowel can change so constipation is a consideration in thinking about symptom lists. I think it’s worth talking with a pediatric allergist about testing her for sensitivities over time and/or considering re-introduction down the line gradually so as to not avoid those foods for a lifetime without clear testing or clear info re an intolerance.
And in regards to water– that is a toughie! All we can do is offer water at and between meals, no way to make it go down!
Summer Ostlund says
Thank you for your response. I do hope we can reintroduce those foods – she is so young, maybe her bowels will heal and grow stronger in the next few years. Thanks also for your response about the water – so true that all we can do as parents is offer – as hard as it may be to know that is out of our control. Take care!
Brandy Lu says
I have a 2 year-old daughter. She has had the abdominal pain off and on since 2013. We’ve been in and out of her doctor’s clinic. All tests came clean. But she is still in pain. It breaks my heart to watch her go through pain for this long. Any advice?
SY Kang says
thanks!!!!
Tonq says
thanks for sharing…
Jude says
HI, my kid 4 YO is struggling with constipation now. He told me that his stomach is not feeling well all the time and can’t poo for few days. I’m so worrying right now so anyone can suggest me that what kind of formula can prevent constipation. Thanks
Jenny says
Hey Jude, I think you should change your current milk formula for your child. It is maybe the milk powder is too heaty and cause your child constipation.
Ashley Goh says
Try giving them more vege and drink more water. I think should be working well on ur child.
maryjanewong says
I think its better for u to seek proper medical advise la cos my DD went in hospital bcos my MIL went and gave her some traditional herbs to solve the constipation prob! so dangerous lor! luckily nth major happened!
MichelleLee48 says
Previously, I was having the same problem! My neighbour asked me to change to Mamil, after week no more such problem. Also, it’s good that it doesn’t contain sugar and high DHA. I hope that this help. Try switching it for a week.
Jenny says
Mamil is one of the constipation remedy for children but the price is quite expensive, not every people can afford it.
Jude says
In fact’s, health is priceless. Every mothers will rather spend more money to make their kids to stay healthier.
Dominic says
MichelleLee, I agree with you. Mamil is really effective and able to prevent constipation. Last time my daughter also faced constipation, then one of my friends who works as a doctor and recommended me to switch to Mamil. After I switched Mamil as the primary milk formula for my daughter, she never face constipation problem anymore.
Meijin says
Yes, as you said every parent willing to spend money to get their child healthier but, this is not the proper way nor a long term solution. It is because what money can do is to purchase the artificial product for children to stay healthy. Although they claimed all the vitamin is good, but for such young aged children shouldn’t have taken too much this kind of products. Meanwhile, we should get some natural ways in order to help our children stay in healthy and it does not cost you a single penny.
Victoria says
Well said, Meijin.I have done the same way as you. I have given my daughter toilet training when she was 2 by giving her some rewards. I want her to make it as a daily routine. Somehow, this helps and I will make sure that her poop every day. Although sometimes she has interval 1 or 2 days, but it’s still fine with me actually. In addition, I will give her drink some juice and offer more high fiber fruits daily for her. Approximately 1 hour before meal is the best timing for her to take fruits to make sure that she has fully digested all the nutritions. Last but the least, in a week or more I will give her some probiotic drinks to help her in maintaining a good intestinal environment.
Menttin says
For me, the brown sugar is the best remedies for me to handle my child constipation. I give brown sugar to my DD, when she is constipated. Every time I add in half to one teaspoon of brown sugar and mixed in a small amount of waters approximately 35mls and feed separate from milk at the beginning of the feeds. 3 times per day until the stool are getting stopped. Very effective remedies, for those parents who are anxious of child constipation could give this remedies a try.
Menttin says
I have been using this remedy whenever my DS are having constipation. It’s working like a charm for the starting, but soon this remedy is no longer works for my DS. Even I had him to drink 4 times per day still nothing changes to him. Currently I was searching for new remedies for my DS constipation problem. Hope it can solve the problem entirely.
Menttin says
Hey Jenny, actually there is many other brands are much more expensive compared to Mamil. The reason why Mamil expensive is because of the ingredient. Mamil bring lots of benefits to children like prebiotic helps in softening stools and prevent digestive discomfort. Meanwhile, Mamil also provide high levels of DHA and calcium to help children in optimum growth and developments. Which I find that the price is reasonable.