Many parents worry about their child’s development at one point in time. With each of my boys, I had worries about their communication and thought their language delays or behaviors signaled something serious. That might just be the “worrier” in me, but it might just be the “mom” in me, too. Competitive parenting makes us all a little nuts…
Here’s a few signs that your child is developing great communication skills on time. However, if at any time you worry that your child isn’t expressing joy, communicating thoughts, or reflecting an understanding of your language, visual cues, and behavior talk with your child’s doctor. If you don’t feel heard or continue to worry, schedule another visit. If you still worry, contact another doctor for a second opinion. Instincts serve us very well when it comes to parenthood. Further, find some peace of mind if your child is doing many of the behaviors listed below!
Reassuring Developmental Milestones For Infants & Children
- Responds to her name between 9-12 months of age.
- Smiles by 2 months, laughs and giggle around 4-5 months, expresses great joy to your humor around 6 months.
- Plays and thinks peek-a-boo is funny around 9 months of age.
- Makes eye contact with people during infancy.
- Tries to say words you say between 12 and 18 months of age.
- Your toddler uses 5 words by 18 months of age.
- Copies your gestures like pointing, clapping, or waving.
- Imitates you — ie pretends to stir a bowl of pancake mix when you give them a spoon and bowl or pretends to talk on the phone with a play cell phone.
- Shakes head “no.”
- Waves “bye-bye” by 15 months of age.
- Points to show you something interesting or points to get your attention by 18 months of age.
Ruth says
We parents really can’t help worrying. My daughter did not have any words by 18 months of age. My doctor took it seriously and told me to come back in a month or two if there was no change. I was very anxious, partly because she was premature (born at 32 weeks) and I was worried there might be some developmental issue related to her brain’s language centre.
I am happy to report that at about 20 months she had more than five words, and is now 29 months and chattering away like any other two year old. She’s not as advanced in terms of language as some of my friends’ rather precocious children, though, and it’s REALLY hard not to compare – but I know she’s completely normal, fine and lovely.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD says
Hi Ruth,
I completely agree. It’s impossible not to compare and language is one milestone that is fairly “quantatative” in the begging so you really do notice when one child has 12 words and yours has only 1 or 2. My first son didn’t really have any words at 18 months and truly didn’t say Mama specifically until right after his 18 mo visit as well. A few months later he was using whole sentences….but those early toddler months were unsettling for me.
Julia says
Hi Dr. Swanson,
I know this is a super old post, so I hope you will see this. My daughter is my first baby, and I feel like I am probably getting hung up on some of the milestones and overanalyzing things that she does and doesn’t do. It seems like she changes with consistency from week to week on different developments. She will be 8 months next week on 2/10/2020. Here are the things that she IS doing now:
– She started crawling at 7.5 months and has now begun pulling up this past week – she sits up without assistance, rolls over in all directions and hit most of her physical milestones or gross motor milestones on time or usually a little early
– She has just begun eating more lumpy purees and feeding herself bananas and pears sliced up and teething crackers and puffs (still working on the pincer grasp)
– She smiles a lot and responds to other people’s smiles. She is more aware of strangers and takes a few minutes to warm up at first – being more clingy to familiar people.
– She completely lights up when she sees me or my husband – sometimes even squealing with delight
– She laughs too – you have to tickle her or say “I’m gonna get you” and she will belly laugh. She used to laugh when we would peek a boo more – but we probably overdid that game because we loved to hear her laugh so much. So now she smiles when we play but doesn’t usually laugh as much. She hasn’t figured out how to play herself, but she does still laugh when we are changing her and we put a towel over her and rip it back to play.
-She makes great eye contact and engages with you. She loves to try to stick her hands in your mouth or grab your nose. I have noticed that sometimes when she is fussy or hungry she will sort of avoid eye contact until she gets her bottle – then it is almost the staring game while feeding her. She makes great and long eye contact and smiles when feeding.
– She babbles all of the time now. When learning to crawl, I noticed she slowed down on the babbling a bit, but is now back at it full throttle saying dada, mama and babababa
– She will have little “conversations” with you. She usually likes to initiate these, but will sometimes respond babbling back if you begin the babbling first.
– She does definitely look everywhere I point. I am not sure if she follows my eye gaze yet though – when are they supposed to do that?
MY CONCERNS:
– If someone else is holding her and she wants to come to me, she will lean towards me and sometimes hold out her hands (sort of) but not always. She has not started lifting up her hands when on the floor to be picked up though.
– Last week she would literally cry and follow me or my husband out of the room if EITHER of us left while she was playing even if the other was still sitting there (seemed very attached to us) – she is not doing this as much now.
-She used to be pretty consistent about sticking out her tongue to imitate us when we would do so. Now I feel like it is hit or miss? I don’t know if it is because she is more concentrated on communicating by babbling?
-MY BIGGEST CONCERN: She was making great progress on name response and now it seems like sometimes she will ignore me when I call her name. However, if I say anything else, she will look up at me. She is more responsive to my husband when he calls her name. I am not sure if this is part of her focusing on other things right now since she is apparently entering into her LEAP 6 in Wonder Weeks – or if this is a regression that I should be concerned about.
Please advise. Thank you so much!
Katie W says
I feel much better having read your post. My son is 19 months and hasn’t yet talked at all. Babbles or hums, but no words. He also was a month premature, which I personally believe plays a roll.
We currently have a behavioral therapist coming weekly and are going to be evaluated by a speech therapist to see if we can start sessions sooner than 2 years of age (the norm).
I, in my heart, believe he will eventually get there when he’s ready. Am praying that is the case.
Alexis says
My son just turned 16 months. He has definitely hit his milestones, says afew words, knows who momma and dada are, knows how to clap when I say “clap clap clap!”…etc…he can walk and run, however, im starting to be concerned because I believe he knows his name however rarely responds to his name. He does respond to No and Come here Vin…hi…a lot of things, just not his name …I know he can hear…but it worries me because even my mother mentioned that he should turn around and look when you say his name. If he is distracted he wont even acknowledge youre speaking to him (which for the most part he does, this is only if hes really interested in his toy or stacking up blocks..) Ive never really been around children and this is my first, so I don’t know what is normal or not. at his last checkup the doc said he seems perfectly fine, but that was over a month ago. next apt. is in afew weeks but I Just would like other mommy opinions, thank you!
Angela says
Hi! My baby did behave almost identical with what you had described. I wonder how your kid is doing now?
Stevie says
Hi Ruth im sooo glad to see your responce as I have a 12yr old son autistic and my 18mth old is nothing like he was at that age! I have been very concerned that maybe Kallum is like his brother (which I have no dramas whatsoever about) but he is showing plain ignorance to his name and will only say mumumum. However dadadaddadad was his first words he refuses to say anything. He was born 8 wks early so completely understand and would love to hear any updates. kind regards Stevie
Andree D says
My son just turned two but his adjusted age is 22 months because my son was also born at 32 weeks. He wasn’t talking by 18 months but within the past two weeks he has been saying more words. He says mama more often but he has said bye or my favorite “bamama” when he points at a banana. LOL. He also shakes his head yes or no when we ask him what he wants. He can even identify his mom on drawn pictures of us when i ask him who is mama. I ask him who is grandpa and grandma and he will run to each of them and know. I think the main thing is that they understand languages well too. I was thinking of getting him early intervention but in the last two weeks he has made ALOT of progress and I’m kind of reconsidering it and waiting to see how he keeps developing when it comes to his expressive language. Another reason why I’m not worried is because he babbles all day and is playing with his own babbles. I accept the fact that he is going to be a little delayed in certain areas due to his prematurity. I as a parent am just going to continue encouraging him to speak and every chance I get add meaning to an item through our language. On top of that we speak to him in two different languages so it may even take a little more time because of that as well.
Jen says
I have three kids. My middle child is high functioning Autistic. We caught it at age two when he had no words. Now a year later he is a thriving 3 year old about to graduate from PT, OT, and Speech. He started regular preschool too. He still has a way to go with social skills but he has thrived with early intervention. I also have a 21 month old. He is currently in speech therapy. He just is a little slow to talk who wouldn’t be with two older siblings who never are quiet. He is thriving already getting toms of new words everyday, and he points, and waves, and smile, and does everything else he is supposed to. We are huge advocates of early intervention for any developmental delay but especially where there is a concern for Autism. When they suggested speech for our youngest we started to worry we were heading down the same path but sometime a speech delay is just a speech delay but I wouldn’t hesitate to get it checked just to make sure.
Hana says
Hello Jen,
I was reading through the comments on this site as I have 2 children (daughter aged 3 years and 9 months) and son (aged 2 years and 9 months) who have speech, language and communication delay. Myself and my partner were worried about them as some signs they show are considered to be signs of autism. The thought of it gives me knots in my stomach and as a mother I am constantly worrying about what the future may hold for them. We live in the UK and my daughter now goes to preschool and my son will be starting daycare. Just over a year ago my daughter had no words whatsoever but is now capable of using at least 20 different words (in context) which is so important but my son who is now the same age as her when she started picking up her words does not know any words. He will take you by the hand and show you what he wants to give you but he doesnt use any words at the moment. They both dont really care for other children i.e. noticing and playing (even eachother).
You said your son had high functioning autism and is now thriving which is wonderful to hear. Sometimes the future always looks so bleak so its always nice to hear from someone of a similar experience and see the progress. If you dont mind me asking how was his communication skills when he was younger and how far and with what interventions has he come to achieve.
xx
Elizabeth S says
If you don’t want the speech difficulties, don’t get the aluminum-containing vaccines. Period.
Jassie says
Seriously Immunisations have NOTHING to do with Autism.
Many children who have Autism have a parent or family relative with Autism. It can be hereditary.
I would rather Immunise my child and save them from death than worry about the risks of Autism.
Oh and I am a teacher too and see many many many students with Autism and its not because of Immunisations.
The reason why people worry about the link is because its often picked up at aged 2 when they have immunisations.
Ceallaigh Thistle says
Oh for f*** sakes. Vaccines have NOTHING to do with autism. Stop spreading this misinformation.
James says
STOP IT Elizabeth – the vaccine – autism link is as real as the tooth fairy.
Meg says
I agree! Every parent who has a vaccinated and unvaccinated child knows this and sees difference
Lindsey Anderson says
I have heard that most babies who begin to show signs of autism have recently eaten vegetables and spent time outdoors. You seem to know what you are talking about, so I’m wondering if you think there is a connection between vegetables and sunlight and autism?
Allie K. says
That comment is ridiculous. You really should educate yourself on vaccines. https://www.publichealth.org/public-awareness/understanding-vaccines/goes-vaccine/
Here is a good place to start.
Aluminum
Why is it used?
Aluminum is used as an adjuvant in vaccines. That is, it makes them more effective by strengthening the immune system response. Thanks to adjuvants, people need fewer doses of vaccine to build immunity.
Health concerns?
Sometimes the mention of aluminum in vaccines makes parents uneasy; that’s because there has been some evidence that long-term exposure to high amounts of aluminum can contribute to brain and bone disease. However, aluminum is naturally present in water, foods, even breast milk. Aluminum has only been shown to harm people if absorbed in very high amounts and when a person’s kidneys aren’t working properly. In contrast, the amount of aluminum in vaccines is negligible.
Is it safe?
Aluminum is the third most common naturally-occurring element, after oxygen and silicon. It is found in plants, soil, air, and water. A breast-fed infant will naturally ingest around 7 milligrams of aluminum in her diet throughout the first six months of her life. In contrast, the standard vaccines administered over the first six months of an infant’s life contain an average of just 4.4 milligrams of aluminum. Aluminum has been used safely for over six decades in vaccines, with no scientific evidence indicating otherwise.
Amount in vaccines?
The amount of aluminum in vaccines is tiny. In fact, babies always have a small naturally occurring amount of aluminum in their bloodstreams, about 5 nanograms. The quantity of aluminum in a vaccine is so small it doesn’t cause any noticeable raise in this base amount found in the blood, even immediately after an injection.
I hope this helps you to know more about the subject and that helps you make an informed decision on the health of your children.
Freya says
I do have concerns because I have Asperger’s. My 17 month old son has been very loving and interacts well with us, but he really doesn’t do hand gestures such as pointing or waving. He can follow my finger when I’m pointing, and aside from doing it once at 7 months, I’ve never seen him do it (he does have other ways of “telling” me what he wants, though. If he wants something like snacks that are in the diaper bag, he’ll go up and hit the diaper bag and look at me). He doesn’t shake his head “no”, though he’ll turn his face or bat something away that he doesn’t want. He only says two words “dog” and “cat”, though he will try to imitate sounds and things that I do (I’ve wondered if he’s saying more and I can’t understand it because I also have an auditory processing disorder). He can also understand what I mean when I give him a simple command. On the one hand he is so expressive and friendly and loving that it’s hard for me to think that he could be autistic, but on the other I’m starting to worry that he’s not talking more or doing more hand gestures.
Viki says
Freya, you have an interesting perspective. I don’t know if you’re missing any of your baby’s words. My husband has severe hearing loss and has some auditory discrimination challenges. He felt like he picked up on fewer of the early toddler words than I did. Toddlers tend to speak softly, don’t always clearly address all their utterances at their parents, have poor articulation. Their articulation gets better fast. 🙂 Starting as toddlers, we taught the kids to speak to their dad under conditions where they have his attention and where it is possible for him to hear.
I’m not qualified to address your specific concerns, but I will mention that I brought a 2 page bulleted list of questions and observations to my son’s 18 month checkup. In fact, I brought a list to my daughter’s 18 month checkup as well, and there is no overlap between the two lists. 🙂 Good luck!
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD says
Hi Freya,
I think you’re doing a great job observing and investing in where your child is developmentally. Make sure to chat with your son’s physician at the 18 month visit and also request formal screening (like the M-CHAT) at the visit if it isn’t done automatically. It will help inform you how he’s doing and hopefully provide peace of mind. If not, you’ll know if you need to consider any additional testing or interventions.
Thanks for sharing here.
Sophia says
Hello Doctor,
I have a question if you dont mind please.
My daughter is 14 month old. She doesnt say anything except “mam”. She doesnt respond to her name at all. Sometimes responds to some noises, such as clapping. She briefly looks at me and turns away. To my inderstanding she has normal eye contact, but it doesnt last more than 5 seconds. She does not point to anything and does not understand that we are talking to her when trying to give her command. However, she laughs sometimes when she watches favorite cartoons, sometimes when you tickle her. She walks. But mostly looks at floor when she walks.
Do you think its early signs of Autism?
Thank you
Ashley Criswell says
Almost everything you said matches what I’m going through with my son. Have you gotten any answers or has your little one progressed
Shemin says
Hi Sophia,
Does your child respond her name ? If so then when did she start?
Did you take her for Autism testing ?
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD says
Freya, one more thing:
If any of your concerns about communication continue, make sure to talk with your son’s doctor about having his hearing screened. With patients who have language delay, we always recheck hearing and I often will refer children for a formal vision screen as well if any concerns continue with development.
Paulina says
Hi
My son is 15 months and he points, says a few words, makes eye contact, plays well with his toys, responds to his name, understands the simple commands,shakes no and yes, plays peek-a-boo and other things, notices and plays with, other kids at playground but the only thing he doesnt do is wave…should I be worried?
Thanks
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Paulina,
I think your son is demonstrating lots of wonderful communication skills including responding to his name, understanding your language, playing games, etc. I wouldn’t hang a hat of worry on just one behavior or hand-motion. Continue to demonstrate waving with him like I’m sure you already do. Keep talking, reading, singing with him. If any more concerns develop make sure you bring it up with his pediatrician at the 18 month visit and ensure he is screened for communication challenges at that visit, too. Enjoy your boy during this magical time!
Amber says
Hi Dr. Swanson,
My daughter is babbling, saying about 3-4 words, is very loving, she claps and will point at up close things, such as pics in a book, a polka dot on her jammies, or a small speck on the floor. Is this considered “pointing?” I see a lot of info emphasizing pointing at far away objects.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Great question. I am really reassured with what your daughter does. Pointing is sometimes (in my opinion) referred to as a way to communicate with you — to draw you into something she’s seeing or thinking about. If you think that’s what she does when she points to her polka dots or things on the floor, I’d consider it pointing. By 18 months, most children are also pointing at things in the sky or at grocery store. Talk with your pediatrician if she’s not. Enjoy her! Sounds so fun…
Amber says
Hi Dr. Swanson,
I forgot to add that she is is 14 months old in about a week and a half. 🙂
Charity says
Hi Dr Swanson,
I love your blog and your honesty. I have a very happy 12 month old son. He shows a lot of affection but hasn’t reached other milestones. Other than waving he does not copy any gestures. He says night-night and mama but rarely babbles. He loves the remote but not soft toys. He doesn’t point at much and his only communication to let us know he wants something is crying. He cries when we leave him and reaches for us when we return. His pediatrician says this is all normal, but everywhere I read seems to say otherwise. I feel I compare his development to other kids his age, and this isn’t fair to him. Is 12 months too young to determine anything and should I approach his pediatrician again?
Thanks.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
I hear wonderful, encouraging milestones in your note (very happy, affection, waving, and some early words). However, I’m not able to do a comprehensive screen here (obviously). I always want families to trust their gut, get all the information they need to rest easier at night. If you remain concerned over the next 2-3 months, don’t hesitate to check in with your pediatrician (or another pediatrician for a second opinion) again.
When families are concerned about development at 1 year of age I always remind them that THEY are the best instruction/model/stimulation for their child. After ensuring that his vision and hearing are screened I say to keep on interacting, playing, singing, and sharing your day with him. The best for his development! And turn off the screens (TV, iPad, computer, DVD) even if on in the background when he’s playing. Those tools have not been found to boost development of toddlers.
sowmya says
Hi doc
My son was born premature before 4 weeks of my due date now he is 17 months old according to date of birth but he doesn’t point or understand my language he lovess watching TV and does clapping and handing things to me and tries to grab a thing but does not point and pats a teddy seeing me patting it and play but flaps his hands and stamps his feet a lot and more when excited and comes after me wherever I go scatters his toys and throws them in the air he eats good and does not get irritated when his routines are changed babbles a lot but no meaningful words yet…tries to eat with fork and spoon plays with his toy but just for a minute with each of them climbs the furniture and gets down loves moving vaccum cleaner
I am a very lot worried parent …does he show any signs of asd …..
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi,
I think we ALL worry about our children during their development. I think if you’re worried enough about how he is communicating or understanding you, it’s best to talk with your pediatrician. Call for an appointment so you can get reassurance and a check-up.
TV doesn’t help with language development at this age. SO do your best to read, sing, play, and talk with your baby every day, all throughout the day. Turn the TV off whenever you can, even if it’s just on in the background.
Moushumi says
Hi doc
My son is 23 months old according to date of birth, he does point or understand my language he lovess watching TV and does clapping and handing things to me and tries to grab a thing and play but flaps his hands and stamps his feet a lot and more when excited and comes after me wherever I go scatters his toys and throws them in the air he eats good and does not get irritated when his routines are changed babbles a lot but no meaningful words yet…tries to eat with fork and spoon plays with his toy but just for a minute with each of them climbs the furniture and gets down loves moving chairs
vidya says
Hi..how is ur son now…am facing same problem
pam says
hello doc Swanson,
my son is 21 months old. he is stubborn, he recently started feeding himself with spoon. was walking by his 1st birthday. he babbles a lot and try to talk to me in words that none ever understands. he barely waves, points at far objects. i am concerned that he doesn’t talk yet, only saying car…he understand most of my commands, active baby and make eye contact. he is a sociable and happy baby. my only concern is that he doesn’t speak yet and neither try to repeat after me. i am really worried
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Pam, it sounds like your son does a number of things that show you he is engaged, happy, listening and interactive. But if you’re worried I recommend you go and see your son’s pediatrician to discuss. The visit will allow for a good discussion, hopefully reassurance, and options for intervention now if necessary. Always better to go in earlier and get reassurance or a new plan than wait.
pam says
forgot to mention can he can imitate the duck sound and the piglets and sometimes he try the dog and horse. he likes playing with other kids.
Sarah says
Hi,
My son is about to turn 12 months in a couple of weeks. He was born on his due date and was breastfed for the first 6 months. We started on formula at that time because he was failing to thrive on breastmilk. He was 9.10lbs when born and by 6 months had dropped to the 16% for weight, his head also had a very slow growth curve, both have started to improve.
He is a very happy, social baby. He smiles, laughs, and babbles. He’s been crawling since 6 months and cruising along furniture since 7 months. He walks while holding hands and can stand on his own. He holds his hands up to be picked up, pushes things away or turns his head when he doesn’t want something, will reach out his hand for something he does want. He doesn’t say any words, at least not that anyone can understand, but he does make some consistent sounds depending on the situation. He waves very inconsistently, clapped for about a week around 9 months and then never again, doesn’t shake his head no, and has never pointed. He does seem to understand instructions, like “give me the toy” or “can Mommy have a drink”.
My daughter was saying a few words by one and doing all of the waving/pointing/etc. and even though I try to not compare them, I can’t help but to worry about him.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Sarah,
It’s impossible not to compare our children’s development, I certainly did but it does lead us only to worry most of the time. Bring up your concerns specifically with the pediatrician at the 1 year check-up. Talk to them about his great receptive language (being able to understand instructions) and the ways he is communicating and how he demonstrates to you that he hears and sees well. If you still don’t feel reassured, ask about a referral for screening.
Emily says
Similar to Sarah’s comments on her child, my son was also diagnosed FTT at 6 months. He was born at 39 weeks, just over 6 lbs, and maintained a steep growth curve until 4 months. Between 4 months and 6 months, he gained no weight. We supplemented with formula and he began gaining weight and remaining on a steady growth curve.
Now, at almost 2 1/2, he’s still a small guy (10th %ile)– but again, has remained on that steady curve (partly because of the constant vigilene we still put on nutrition and calorie intake). However, he’s speech delayed. He’s been in speech therapy through early intervention for the last 7 months, and we are starting to see progress (though to what extent that progress is from therapy versus time, I’m not certain).
My question is– could FTT at 6 months have caused speech delay? What ramifications does FTT carry once babies are over the initial hurdle and begin gaining weight? Other than speech, Cooper is on level with his peer group. He’s happy, expressive, has great receptive language, and integrates with the group well. His physical milestones (crawling/walking) were later than most, but at this point he’s caught up. I always worry what the lack of speech might be masking– for example, is his compexity of thought at the level it should be– and am concerned that if he had never had a weight gain issue, he wouldn’t be here. Part of my interest is that I’m pregnant with my second baby (who I would LOVE to be a chunky monkey 😀 ).
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Emily,
Unfortunately it’s very hard to speculate on this here, and not responsible to you or your son. Without knowing what caused the slow down in growth I can’t say it interfered with his development. I suggest you talk with your pediatrician about your concerns. Even consider a pre-natal visit with them, or prioritize discussing this at the visit after you next baby is born. Good luck with all and enjoy the transition meeting your second baby!
Saba Arif says
Hi,how old is your son now and how is he doing,my son is 12 months old having same situtation.please reply me back.thank you
Sri says
Hi Doc,
My son is 33 months old.
1)Has 50-60 words.but no sentences.No Mama,Dada yet.
2)Does not have any friends or try to make any.
3)lines up toys most of the time.
4)Responds to his name sometimes..(like 7/10 times)
Few other things which he does :
1)Point to things in a book when i am teaching him.(Doesn’t point otherwise)
2)Plays peek-a-boo perfectly.
3)Does a lot of pretend play like feeding his toys,speaking over on a toy phone.
4)Friendly with elders and make proper facial gesture/smile.
5)Sings all nursery rhymes with proper hand gesture suitable for the rhymes.
6)knows all animal sounds and their names.
Is he autistic..I am really concerned.Please guide me.
Madhu says
Sri,
Please let me know how your son is doing now
Titi says
Hi ! My 30 month old daughter has the same things except for lining up toys, can I ask how your son is doing?
Patrice says
Hi Dr. Swanson,
My daughter is 11 months old and I have some concerns. She does not babble or imitate, and she cannot yet wave, point, or clap. I have heard her make sounds so I know she is capable, she just does so very infrequently (it is not a skill she had and lost, she has always done it very infrequently). We know her hearing is good. She also does not seem to like to cuddle very much. She does express joy constantly and is very smiley. She is walking and finger feeding herself well. She loves to play peek a boo and will initiate the game with us by hiding her face, then peeking at us while smiling. She can give kisses, high fives, and knows the command to give a dog toy to our dog. She will also hand me something when I say “can I have that?” and sometimes tries to feed me back when we’re feeding her in her high chair. We had her evaluated by Early Intervention and she did not need services, but they said if she has not picked up on some of these behaviors in another six months they will retest and that Autism is not out of the question. I am very concerned for a diagnosis of Autism. Do you have an opinion about this?
Nicole says
Hello Doctor Swanson,
I have a 10.5 month old son who was recently evaluated by EI and he will start the program next week, but they didn’t give much insight yet on wether his delays are indicative of an underlying disorder.
He was born full term, with a traumatic delivery. But other than that, healthy 9.5 lbs 10/10 apgars.
He was colic reflux baby for the first 6 months.
He is exclusively breastfed (no bottles, no pacis, nothing enters his mouth, period)
He refuses any and all food. He turns his head away and protests. He will pick the food up and bang it on his tray and look at it. *rarely* he will touch it to his lips and then *shudder*
So he’s still entirely breastfed and weighs 24 lbs at 30 inches.
He’s, in my opinion, a fussy guy. He’s moody. He loves certain things like jumping, and being tickled… He will laugh and giggle and have a riot. He loves strangers and new people/places. He’s not afraid of anything or anyone.
He can crawl
He wakes 4 to 5 times a night and sleeps maybe an hr during the day, short naps.
He likes his toys but he doesn’t know to play proper with them. He taps them on the floor/table/ whatever. He hits them with his palm of his hand. No matter what the toy. He scratches things as well. He is very intrigued by textures/lights/sounds.
He seems to be in a bubble. He doesnt respond to his name hardly at all and you can stomp clap scream and he stays focused on his task at hand as though you’re not there. He doesn’t “understand” concepts like clapping or hiding things or looking for people or things. He just tap tap taps everything… And that’s the extent of his comprehension.
He hates to be held, he will arch and push away. He doesn’t like kisses or hugs or cuddling… Yet he gestures to be picked up ALL the time, then immediately acts unsettled when held. If you try to hold his hand or help him he resists. He basically resists everything you try to do with him.
Do you have any insight? I am desperately worried about his cognitive functions.
Anne says
What came of this? Your story really hits home for me. It sounds like it was written about my son almost. We’ve had the same issues with reflux and everything including the worries about not wanting to be held after acting like it.
Saba Arif says
Hi,how is your son doing now?
Jessica Lopez says
My 20 month old son doesnt talk but babbles, doesnt point but reaches for what he wants, waves goodbye, plays with toys with his sister but not that much with other kids, humms a lot, smiles when smile at and laughs when he is tickled and also when he sees something funny, plays games with us like peek-a-boo and other silly games, loos at me straight to my eyes and also follows me when Im looking at him from different directions, and also answers to his name when called and follows simple instructions! My concern is the not talking, playing with other kids, flaps hands when excited and also, really picky eater! What should I do? Thanks!
Sen Nat says
Hi Jessica,
How is your son now is he talking? I have two year old and do the same things as you mentioned.
Salena says
Hi my baby she’s 12-13mo she doesn’t look when I call her name I tried to turn off the T.V. and clapped behind her and she didn’t react also Sometimes I see her shaking her head Sideways but he can walk, smile and shout baby talk like “ta ta ta, da da da, and sometimes daddy.
Gena says
It doesn’t say the age for clapping, waving, hand gestures, pointing, imitating, and shaking head “no” .. What is the proper age for that.
Thank you,
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Well each of those have different times for children! Clapping happens during late infancy often if it is modeled, pointing by around 18 months and many children communicate “no” by shaking their head by late infancy or early toddlerhood around 12-15 months.
Caitlin Hope says
My son was born at 35weeks 5 days. He was a ‘late smiler’ but allowing for the early birth, did it ‘on-time’. He is a very happy boy, crawling, crusing, babbling and is very social. He does not wave, clap or point though and I worry that he doesn’t really have separation or stranger anxiety. He will sometimes look at me to check if its ok when he meets a stranger but is happy to smile at them. He is comforted when picked up after crying and has always had great eye-contact. He responds to his name, loves peek-a-boo, follows me in a hide-and-seek game and imitates a tongue poke with noise instantly. He has been to baby groups most days with me 3 -4 times a week since birth and so is used to being around lots of people. He is very interested in a friends child of 16 months and loves to watch her walk around, giggling as she does. He also has a double whirl/double crown which I see some say can be a link? Please help.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Caitlin, I don’t know how old your son is so impossible to answer your question. Regardless, if you’re worried about his development and his progression don’t hesitate to go in and talk with his pediatrician!
Amy says
My son is 15 months old and doesn’t respond to his name, wave, or look us in the eyes if we are holding him or changing him. If he is sitting across the room he will look at us though. If I am changing him and look into his eyes and try to talk to him or sing he will freak out and start screaming and looks away. He doesn’t imitate either. He also doesn’t say any words or respond to simple commands. Here is a little history on him: 1. He was born at 38 weeks with torticollis, severe acid reflux, and was diagnosed at 4 months with central sleep apnea and then went back for another sleep study at 8 months and still had central sleep apnea. The Dr. did a scan of his brain and said everything looks normal and chalked it up to his acid reflux causing the central sleep apnea. I am not sure if any of these can cause delays but I am not getting any help from anyone with my concerns. I keep getting told all babies are different and I know they are but when you have a toddler that won’t respond to his name or even look at you (or even freak out) while he is sitting on your lap or being held while you are talking to him, I don’t think that is normal at all. Any suggestions?
Jonie says
I was reading your post and sounds just like my granddaughter. I dint know when this post was done but was wondering how your little one is doing now and if you ever got any answers. Thank you.
David says
Hello, my son just turned 17 months. He points he waves he understands 100% of what we say. He follows through with commands and directions that we give. He is very active, always on the go always wanting to play. Will sit down and play with his toys and loves his dog. But says few words like; mom, dad, this. Most everything he points at he says “this” and waits for us to tell him what it is. He’s just not saying many words, should I be quite nervous???
Denise says
Hi Doctor,
My 17mo son doesn’t even speak a word yet even papa or mama. He is babbling a lot. He doesn’t like to hold things, respond his name after called few times, have eye contact when we call his name, not interested in playing toys, no wave hands, no pointing things and hardly seen him interact with others same age toddler but he did play with us at home.
Recently, we find out he always tilt head to one side (right) when look at things and getting serious now. Brought him to paed, paed says not related to muscle thingy. He refers us to see eyes and brain specialist.
My heart sinked when I heard it.
Elaine says
Hello! My daughter is 19 months and I am worrying about her language/communication skills. She says some words but don’t repeat them as often. She sometimes call her dad ‘dada’ or ‘didi’ and called me ‘mommy’ once, identifies 3-4 animals and imitates sounds and then forgets(?) them. She babbles alot like speaking a full sentence and sings a few songs. If she wants/needs help with something she brings it to me but I don’t see her point at things or point on something she’s interested on. She kisses me and my husband if I say ‘kiss mommy, kiss daddy’ and she loves to be cuddled. She responds to her name if I call her but if her attention is on a toy or something she wouldn’t look back at me. I had her hearing test done and it went fine, now they want her to be assessed for autism. Is my baby showing early signs of autism already?
Saba says
My daughter is 20 months old and have the same problem like yours whats happened with your one does she have autism ?
janette *worried mommy* says
My son is now 16 months. Waves sometimes but only with us (mom and dad) he does say Dada and papa but I don’t think he has linked that word to his father yet. He has reached a lot of milestones (walking, drinking from a strew,.etc) so I’m really not sure what to think. From what I’ve notice he is very quite at times. It’s like he’s observes more and he grunts a lot. he does react to his name and when I call him, gives me eye contact and smiles when I smile at him. but one thing he doesn’t point to what he wants. I’ve just learned his gestures. But one big thing that has happened was when he was 14 months he started to say mama (and it was linked) but after a few days he stopped and hasn’t said it again. Should I be worried?
Also I have to admit my son does watch TV often. More often then he should. Am I hurting him?
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Janette,
Sorry for delay in response here. I think if you’re worried about his development it makes sense to see the pediatrician, discuss your concerns and also check in on TV time. Did you have a 15 month check-up? If not, make sure you get in for his 18 month check up so you can get some reassurance.
Screen time has not been found to help children’s development under age 2 (no studies yet to date) and so pediatricians will always recommend limiting it at this age. There is data that finds when the TV is on, adults in the room talk less and therefore children are exposed to less talking/signing/conversation which isn’t in their best interest.
Saba says
My daughter is 20 months old and have the same problem like yours whats happened with your one does she have autism ? Did she saw a doctor ?
Apple Guanzon says
Hi. My son is 19 months old…. he babbles all the time but that about it. he says ” boo” for ball and “moo” for moon then “caa” for car… he waves, play normally but one thing I’m concerned about is that he does not look at me whenever i call his name, as if he does not recognize his name… should i give him a few months more or should i consult a doctor?
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Apple,
If you haven’t had your son’s 18 month well-child check up, it’s a good time to check in. Standard of care at 18 months of age is a developmental assessment (as part of the check-up, which includes language) and also an M-CHAT form (screening for communication) — perhaps check in at the clinic where your son is seen to make sure that he’s had his 18 month check and screening.
Midge says
Hi Doc-
Here’s a brief run down on my (almost) 18M son. He’s been walking since 9M, actually now he runs. He can go up and down stairs- feeds himself with a fork, gave up the bottle very easy when I took it at a year. He waves hi & bye. Claps, loves playing peek-a-boo, and loves nursery rhymes. He play pretend (feeding baby, huffing baby, makes tea). He interacts great with the family and strangers (minus a little fear from the new lady cutting his hair). He plays great with kids. He can point out pictures in books, spots airplanes, and makes animal sounds.
He will not talk! He will repeat some words when you say them, and will mimick sounds back and forth. Other than that, he really has no words. His mama and dada were just “babble”. He does know what things are though. If you tell him to go get his shoes and sit down, he will…he will even try to put them on. He can undress himself & help dress himself. He does try to say things, but he doesn’t open his mouth when doing so.
Any thoughts on this? Should I be extremely concerned, or should I be excited in the areas he is excelling in (such as following two and three step commands)?
He’s more of a doer, than a sayer. He will point to what he wants (instead of saying it), then go get it on his own.
Thanks!
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Midge,
I think you should feel great as you observe all of the incredible skills your son is collecting! He does so many things that show you he is listening, understanding, and that he also has things to share. I think you should bring up your concerns about his verbal expressive language at his 18 month check-up. Some children certainly take their time but your pediatrician will know best how your son is doing and can also help check records to make sure he passed his newborn hearing screen.
deyna arteaga says
Hi. My daughter is almost 12 months and she doesn’t say mama or dadda yet. she doesnt wave or clap her hands. Sometimes she has a hard time responding to her name. She plays and interacts with her toys and all that. I’ve also notice that she gets really excited when she sees little kids but it’s like she’s overdoing it. I’ve talked to my doctor about a screening for autism and she pretty much said I was crazy that she was fine. But I still have a concern and she just looks at melike I’m just being dramatic.
Debbie says
Hi doctor my son is 11 month old.He is crawling walking without any support a few step.clap whenever I clap , have just started waving but very rare.the only concern of mine is he dont respond to his name but respond to the name of his toys by looking at the toys whenever I call it by their name.
eddie says
Hi doc
I have a 6 month boy who’s happy smiles laugh plays with his toys loves being his jumperoo he’s grabs his feet takes 2 to 3 naps a day loves tummy time rolls over he will look when he hears a noise everything he is suppose to do but there is one thing that concerns my girlfriend and I is that he doesn’t make contact with us on a consistent basis only if we r playing with him and r about 6 to 10 inches away from his face he won’t make eye contact for a long period of time he will look at object and all but just won’t make the eye contact with it face for awhile and also won’t look at us when we r calling his name even if we are yelling it at him he won’t make the effort to make eye to eye are these symptoms we should be concerned about and should we schedule an appointment with our pediatrician? Thank you
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Eddie,
The tips in this post are typical for toddlers (as noted), not 6 month-olds.
Most children respond to their name by the age of 12 months.
Check in with your pediatrician for specifics about your infant
Moni says
Hi Doctor Wendy,
I have some worries about my son developmental mile stone, he is my first son. He is 19 months and he a very active baby. At 9 months when i called his name he would look at me. But, right around 1 he just didn’t take interest (in my opinion) in turning to look at me when i called out to him, now its getting me worried.
He is very affectionate, when i smile or make funny faces, he smiles or laughs. At 13 months he knew how to say ball ( but I have not repeated it to him often) he has not said ball, but knows what it is. He sound (chirps) birds noise, when he sees it or hears it or smiles. Calls out to me ( mom, mom) when he is upset, scared or i leave the room he is in. He said “ya” ( no more in spanish) when he is full or to stop something, or “aya” ( over there in spanish) to head at a direction he wants to go. But, he basically repeats it when i say it first, very few times he said them first. He points or grab my hand when he wants something. Today i did hear him say “agua” (water in spanish) when i repeat it many time at every drink he takes.
He is starting to be sociable with other kids in the park. He has always smiled when he saw other children and gets ecstatic when he saw them run by him by age 1. But now he tries to get near kids and touch them or try to give a kiss.
He can nod his head to state no or push what he does not want. Also, recently he started to let other people to touch him ( other family members) but, he sometimes screams or grabs me or my mom so we wont let go of him.
He enjoys playing puzzles and loves to listen and see people sing or toons singing.. I sing to him mostly nonsense every so often ( mainly what we are doing) and i have notice him sing ( babbling in tone) when he finish eating or is playing, or sleepy. He Hugs he, gives me kisses ( even when i don’t ask for them.
What worries me the most right now is he does not respond to his name. When i call him he will not turn to look at me or anyone. I am wondering if he just doesn’t know that is his name?
3 days ago I have got into the habit of calling his name every other minute when he is playing, or we are out for a walk.. I sound crazy walking with him and repeat his name, squat down and look at him and say his name, all through out our walking time.
He has turn at times, but only once or twice.
Should i be worried?
roxanne says
Hi! My daughter is15month old and im really worried because all of a sudden she didnt respond when i call her name…before she’s very playful and looking atvme when i call her name but now, she ignores me and not looking to my eye… it really bothers me a lot….
lily says
Hi Dr.Wendy I am concerned about my son he is my third baby (I have all boys) he was a 30 week preemie and had bilateral brain bleeds 1 . He is now 29 months old and only says bye he doesn’t play pretend and throws really bad tantrums whenever people laugh. Autism has come up at his pediatricians and neurologists office but has not been diagnosed. He is receiving pt and speech therapy what else can I do? He used to say 7 words then stopped and lost those words at around 18 months
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Lily, are you in a major city with a children’s hospital or behavior center that has experts who care for ex-preemies? Some neurodevelopmental experts have interest specifically in/for those children. I’d reach out to your pediatrician to help build a team of support with experts to ensure you’re in the loop with where you are on services you’re using to help support your son’s development and what you’re doing to know more about what is best as his development continues to unfold.
Dawn Shoemaker says
My daughter is 20 months old she only says 1 word ( Dada) she will point when something is wrong or wants something she waves byebye and that’s it I would touch my noes and she will just look at me I will point to her ears then mine and she still wouldn’t do nothing if she don’t want something instead of telling me “No” She will shake her head I really just look at her and just cry because I’m so scared that something may be wrong with her or there’s something I did or not doing and could be to help her please anyone help me
Christine says
Hi my son is 16 months old,and he doesnt point, wave or talks, but he plays happily with us and when we stop playing he will wait for us play again even though we pretend to close our eyes he would wake us in order to play again, he doesnt point but have other ways of “telling” me what he wants like for example a new toy he is interested in when the toy stop moving, he will gave it to us in order for the toy to move again,and recently he learn to shoot a toy ball in to a toy goal,should we be worried that he is an autistic?
Christine says
Hello my son is 16 months old,and he doesnt point, wave or talks, but he plays happily with us and when we stop playing he will wait for us play again even though we pretend to close our eyes he would wake us in order to play again, he doesnt point but have other ways of “telling” me what he wants like for example a new toy he is interested in when the toy stop moving, he will gave it to us in order for the toy to move again,and recently he learn to shoot a toy ball in to a toy goal,should we be worried that he is an autistic?
Kim says
Hi there, I have a quick question on what time frame you mean by late infancy when you say clapping. My son is almost 11 months old and can “kind of” clap. He was seen by a PT for a few months as he is on the bigger side and had a harder time getting moving. He is now crawling, pulling himself up on everything, babbles like crazy, makes great eye contact and is very social. But has yet to truly start clapping. He did what I thought was it in front of it PT a month or so ago and she she that was the beginning stages. He still does that same thing. It’s like his hands come from above his head and come almost together but not quite. It looks similar to him banging toys together. He started hands and knees crawling at 10 months, was army crawling from 8.5 months to then. Ever since he is everywhere. My impression is that he is just focused on the physical stuff right now? I was worried about him not waving but I see you have written that is more of a 15 month milestone and pointing more of an 18 month one. I just wasn’t sure if I should be concerned is not completely clapping at this point at just under 11 months. I will plan to bring this up at his 12 month checkup if it isn’t happening by then. He no longer sees the PT as he was clearly. On that same note she told me several times he shows zero signs of autism as far as she could see (she sits on the Autism board of our hospital). But of course this is always still concerning. He is my second son, my first is a little over 2 and I have zero concerns about him. I feel like I don’t recall him doing alot of this until around 13-14 months though.
Kathryn Griffithz says
My one year old son does not respond to his name. He is loving and affectionate, loves playing with other kids and toys, he babbles and points, hands me things and reaches for me when someone else is holding him. I worry about autism because although he does not meet the majority of the criteria of things to watch out for, the fact that he does not respond to his name is worrying me so much. He had his check up but it was honestly something I didn’t even notice until afterward, I don’t know if I should make another appointment or wait till his 15 month. Just don’t want to miss anything.
veeka says
My son is 23 months old.
He repeats words after me, even though I don’t necessarily think he knows what they mean. He waves bye bye only when he feels like it and everyone is doing it, he loves mickey mouse club house. The only command he responds to is “going bye bye” and he’ll run to the door and push me out. He doesn’t say many words on his own, he is only a repeater. He can hum all day long, all kinds of baby songs I play for him, but he doesn’t say words except after me. He doesn’t point at things. and if I tell him to bring something it is almost like I don’t even exist. He does not point either, but I never do that myself. We speak 2 languages at home, Egyptian and English. Should I be concerned? I really want to hear him say mama or dada to me or to his father. He occasionally says them but just babbling not calling anyone.
veeka says
My son is 23 months old.
I forgot to explain that he only repeats after me when he feels like it. A lot of times he’ll just look at me and smile when I am trying to get him to repeat words after me.
veeka says
ohhhh and lots and lots and tons of babbling doesn’t stop all day. It started at about age 1, stopped for a while and now it’s going very high speed and very advanced “noises” He is continuously making noises during his waking hours, between humming to music and babbling almost like “conversation in a weird language”…
sarah says
I have noticed that you have avoided addressing the many many posts here about children who do not respond to their names. Why is that? Please let us know when we should worry. If a child, waves, claps at appropriate times, plays with toys, doesn’t hand flap etc but absolutely never ever responds to his name at 14 months should we be worried? He waves bye bye and hello at appropriate times without being prompted. Loves to cuddle. Laughs at times. He responds to the words Peek a Boo and will look up and smile every single time. He responds to musical notes and to people saying YAY!!! When he does something good, he claps and says YAY for himself along with us. He hands us toys to show us and waits for us to say thank you then he takes the toy back and does it again. But never ever responds to his name. Even when someone is directly behind him saying his name and clapping their hands very loudly. He just keeps playing with toys as if he is deaf, yet,say Peek a boo and he turns around and smiles waiting to see you cover your eyes etc He will even put his own hands over our eyes and take them away to hear Peek a Boo. He doesn’t mind change. If we take a toy away from him he just grabs another one and starts playing. Please address this not responding to name issue for everyone who keeps asking. Thanks.
Pubali says
Even I don’t understand why this particular question is avoided? My LO is 14 months old, very loving, affectionate reaching her milestones but never responds to her name. She babbles, imitates, plays all kinds of social games with big sis. She comes and greets me hearing the door bell, comes and finds me if I shout from a different room, has lovely eye contact, enjoys watching tv and reacts quite strongly. Only thing she never responds to her name. Should I be worried??
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
You mention so many reassuring signs of verbal and social development! Talk with your pediatrician about your concern about her not responding to her name at the 15-month check up.
Mimi says
Hi, I have been frantically searching for a post similar to this! My nearly 19 month old is also very poor in the babbling section (and not a single word yet). She only calls me ‘ma’ when she desperately needs me, though I also doubt it could be a fluke! She constantly squeals and screams n tried to get herself be heard but no babble (such as dada/mama/baba etc). She blows raspberries, makes kissing sounds and other strange sounds with her mouth (like blowing wind between her teeth), but nothing what everyone would consider babbling! I’m not sure where I should go for further advice as every time I have raised this with doctors they have dismissed it! I worry more as she has been delayed with all her other developmental milestones too (commando crawling at 12 months, proper crawling at 15 months and only just talking a few steps unaided recently! still not properly walking) any advise will be so helpful!
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Mimi, you sound like you haven’t had your concerns properly addressed by an expert. Can you get a second opinion with another pediatrician so that you can feel reassured or potentially have a full developmental eval for your child?
Rita Pipkins says
My daughter is 21 months old. She says five words tops. Mama, da da or da dy, ba ba and tata (i breastfeed). Dada means mostly everything. She yells a lot, in rhythm sometimes. she never points or waves but will grab YOUR hands to get her something or show you what she wants. She responds to music, enjoys humming what you are humming and responds sometimes her name. She often ignores eye contact when addressing her, but when she wants your attention she will grab your face to center it on her. She often will ignore you but we know she can hear because if we ask her to give us something she has she will bolt the other direction! My concern is even though she does all these smart things (organizes her toys, evades policing, etc) she will not talk. We NEVER talk baby talk to her either. I’m only concerned because she has nephew two weeks older than her that always responds to his name,waves, points to what he wants, babbles a lot more and follows more simple commands (he doesn’t ignore you). He’s quite the opposite as a matter of fact. He’s very clingy and adult oriented, and my daughter, although she wants someone there with her, will quickly to her own thing and be self involved. I just wonder if there is more i can do to ensure she is developing her speech properly. Oh and she has no patience for listening to you read. She just likes the pictures..and to eat the book if you’re not looking!
Solace anku says
Hello Rita,
My daughter who is 26months old shares the same characteristics as your daughter. I noticed her unresponsiveness to her name when she turned 12months. I also noticed her poor eye contact and gaze at people at this age. Several visits to the doctor and we later found she had Glue ear (fluid in her middle ear). she has been closely observed and after 6months the fluid drained without surgery; ever since I have noticed some improvements.
She is born premature at 33weeks. How is your daughter now?…mine will start speech therapy soon. kindly share your experiences, Autism had been mentioned often in her assessments but is has not be diagnosed.
Claire says
Hi Dr. Swanson,
I think you are giving out some great information here. I just wanted to share my story. My son is now 33 months. He hit all of his communication milestones as an infant except for words. He didn’t say his first word until he was 15 months. At two years old, he had less than 20 words. I took him for an evaluation because I am an SLP and was concerned. His receptive language was great, but he wasn’t putting words together and he started to have some behavioral issues. They told me that everything was fine and his behavior was due to the fact that I had just had a baby. I knew it wasn’t ok and I pleaded with them, but they dismissed my concerns. So I worked with him at home indirectly of course! I’m proud to say that his expressive communication is ahead of where it should be now, but I still felt something was not right. Still a lot of frustration and meltdowns. He also didn’t seem interested in other children. He is very social with adults, loving and warm, makes eye contact with familiar listeners, but has trouble with non-preferred activities. So I took him to a neurodevelopmental psychologist this past Friday and he was diagnosed with autism. Hearing this was not a surprise, but still upsetting at the time. The thing is, he is still the same little boy I have loved every day since his birth. He is cuddly and loves to play outside. His smile and laugh light up any room. So while I spent so much time worrying about his development, I was missing out on all the amazing things he was doing. We have a long road ahead, but he is going to get the therapy he needs. So for all of the parents, I just want to say if you are concerned, make sure you push for what you think is best for your child, but don’t spend so much time worrying. Enjoy your child for the amazing little person he/she is. Chances are, things are fine, but a diagnosis is not the end of your child’s life…it’s just the beginning of a new one.
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Thanks for your comment, Claire. Really appreciate you sharing your story here! I can’t agree with you more:
Annie says
Hi Dr. Swanson,
I too am starting to get worried about my 18-month old. We just had his 18-month checkup and our pediatrician wasn’t concerned yet but I would like to hear what you think.
My son is very active and pretty much just does what he wants to do. He doesn’t talk (babbles a lot though and has a couple of animal sounds down) and won’t copy or try to imitate any words I’m saying (he’ll sometimes copy random sounds, e.g. when someone blows their nose, he’ll try to copy that sound). He also doesn’t respond well to his name or follow commands (unless he wants to, like when I ask him to bring me his shoes so we can go outside) or listen to when I say ‘no’. He does seem to understand quite a bit though, for example, when I ask him if he wants to go upstairs he’ll go to the stairs or if he wants to take a bath, he’ll stop whatever he’s doing to bolt towards the bathroom. His hearing seems fine, as he can hear from a mile away if I open the patio door to go outside or he can hear my phone ring when it’s across the room and out of sight.
He can be very loving and makes eye contact if he feels like it. He also communicates non-verbally, points to what he wants and ‘pulls/pushes’ us to wherever he wants to go.
He can play independently and pretends play a bit (talking on the phone with anything that could possibly resemble a phone).
I’m not too concerned about him not speaking yet but I am concerned about him not trying to imitate us and doing what most toddler his age are doing, like pointing out several body parts (he knows a few but will only point them out once in a blue moon).
I’d really appreciate your input.
Thanks in advance!
ayesha haque says
hi doctor my son is now 26 months now,we are very worried about him his my first child and only child, we had him after a long wait threw ivf, been having feeding issues for so long he will not have solid food at all, use to have puree past 3 months that has stopped to, has no solids at all now,milk he stopped at 6 months by a bottle days weeks would go past he would not drink,been dehydrated, has to be admitted at hospital to be put on the drip, and some doctors are unbelievable we go in saying our child does not drink or eat and all they can say mum just try again and again u just have to try until they do which really upset me because they just didn’t want to know, we had no other option to syringe feed him and he is still being syringe fed, i try everything i can always trying with a cup beakers all he will do is bite on them will not drink we have to distract with him with cartoons and etc to give him some milk, fed up now frustrated after a long journey now my son is given fortini multi fibre one bottle a day as he is not getting any nutrient, now our worries just get worse to he does not respond to his name no matter how many times u call him, he does not look when we point at things, he like playing with him self does not play with other kids we have got him into preschool but most the time he is crying there, im always engaging with him most of the time he just does not care, or does not show any interest,he hates a lot of textures such as play dough and messy play he will cry if u make him feel anything like that, so we leave it i try to show him by doing it my self but he will cry, i thought it might be some sensory issues but now we just are lost he repeats number and letters he has learned at home visually does not learn verbally threw educational programs, does not say a single short sentence, he is quiet addicted to a comfy blanket he likes to chew and feel another side of it without this blanket we cannot get him to sleep but we are only trying to give him at bed times only,he likes jumping and spinning around and been thrown up in air toys he just throws them around does not play as a normal child will do, we are still waiting on pediatric on first appointment we just don’t know what else we can do, does not say mum or dad or any of the family members. please could you give any advise for our precious little boy.
Sally says
Hi! My daughter is 18 months she babbles but says no solid words. She doesn’t respond to her name and seems like she is just ignoring whoever is calling her. She will give slight eye contact but only when I’m singing songs to her. She points to books but I don’t think she’s trying to communicate anything by it. She will wave hi when she feels like it and loves to play peek a boo. She sometimes tries to imitate the peek a boo sounds I make. She laughs when I play with her and cries when she wants something, but she won’t tell me what it is she wants. I’m very concerned she didn’t meet certain milestones. Does it seem like my daughter has autism?
Amrita C says
Hi Sally,
My daughter is 17 month old and is exactly what you are describing. However, she is babbling and uttering 2-5 words. She used gestures to get what she wants. She hums, loves watching her nursery rhymes on TV, reacts to them,invents her own game,loves to hear me sing, makes eye contact, turns to anything new she hears but will not turn her head when we call her.She seems very absorbed in her games.
She is very active, but will never wave a ‘Bye’ or say ‘no’ but she does shake her head, move away hand to show she does not like / want something. She protests loudly and also shows her shyness appropriately.She is a happy child in herself and I find her imitating some of my gestures a day or two later.She plays peek-a-boo, runs around and has very good fine & gross motor skills.
If the doctor and any other expert could help, it would be very helpful.
Thanks in advance.
Monica goyal pareek says
Hi
My son is 30 month old. He has just started talking. He can ask for whatever he wants. He would even say words for familiar objects like flower, slide, climb, dog, etc. but he does not respond to his name and does not follow instructions. Even simple instructions like get the phone or get your ball. Whenever the phone rings he would give me the phone. But when I ask him to get it he would not get it. He plays pretend with the phone so he identifies the object but does not respond to the instruction. Is there a problem?
Karen says
Hi there! My nephew is exactly 18 months old, but I am a little concerned about his development: he is a (mostly) happy chap when he is with his mom, but when he is with us the wheels come off when he can’t, for eg. have his bottle. She can leave and he’s fine, but he is inconsolable once he’s upset. These are the things I am truly worried about, though: he doesn’t say ANY words – not mamma, dadda or anything; he does not point at anything, although he can turn pages in a book when he occasionally will look at one; he does not gesture towards or for anything; he doesn’t know how to hold a crayon and cannot draw a line; he makes a near-constant grumbling, humming sound when eating or just sitting or running; he cannot use a spoon or pretend to use a brush; he runs mostly on his toes … and mostly runs instead of walking; he cannot clap his hands or wave; he makes eye contact with his mom and step-siblings (I think?), but nobody else; his hearing seems fine because he can hear his bottle cap being clicked; he cries like he’s either in pain or heartbroken when “sad” or “slow” music is on; he will watch a square move across a television screen for 1/2 hour (it’s a weird thing when my sister puts on music and the album cover bounces around the screen), but he has zero interest in anything else (I know – no TV, but I was interested to see what would happen); he can throw a ball overhand, but can’t stack any blocks. This is all such a mystery to me. He also stores food in his cheeks and doesn’t like “textures”. Much to my annoyance, my sister feeds him like a bird (he just sits and opens his mouth) and still feeds him mushy Gerber-type Stage 2 goop. He’ll eat toast and meat, but only if shredded super fine. I’m confused: should I be worried? The local clinic and her doctor are concerned, but she says he is absolutely perfect and there’s nothing wrong with him. She did agree to a referral to an ENT specialist to check his hearing, but as I said … he can hear small sounds clearly when he wants to. He also doesn’t respond to his name. Please help? I want to help him, but want to know I’m not overreacting, first. Thank you so much!!! ♡
Karen says
As an add-on to above, my nephew does not babble, pretend play, or follow one-step instructions. Not sure if this helps. It is as if he is a walking, running 6 month old in some respects and I really want to help him! Thanks again.
nandita says
Hi my son is 2 years and 3 months old
He has an average collection of one word.
Such as he recognizes a lot of things like
A for apple b for ball ,c for cat, horse, dog, yak, cow goes moo, Monkey goes oo oo , ra ra,snake and turtle and so on. Anyhow he barely makes eye contact while saying these things. He says hello and bye only when he feels like it. He recognizes 4-5 colors and can count 1-10 along with recognizing the numbers. He knows his alphabets small and capital but misses a couple.he only looks at me when I say something that interests him. As a baby he was good with eye contact. He smiles and claps when he is happy though. He also cheers when I sing a ryhme to him at times and looks at me on occasions. He looks at me when i create suspense. For eg when I say ready steady he will not look… Then I wait for him to look at me to say go and only then I say go.
I also started his speech and language therapy when he was 2 as he only had accept 8-10 words then. Now he has about 50-60words I guess , but he still not very prompt with eye contact and does not say mumma or daddy. He just whines when he needs to call for me or comes and gets my hand and looks at what he wants or take me there. He says the word if he knows it.Plus he does not put 2 words together. All he says is yellow car,bye bus,bye car and bye Pooh. He is otherwise very active and loves to play catch with kids his own age,but plays on his own while playing with toys. He does like to run around a lot. He also likes to line up his cars but he does take them back and forth and also says weee when he makes them fall from the couch at times. He is not very good with hugging or kissing. He does strech his hand to be picked up. Plus when I tell him to give mumma a hug he runs backwards and then runs towards me when I stretch my hands out to him but does not cuddle properly. I am writing all these details as its really confusing. Some signs indicate that everything is normal but some signs indicate the risk of autism. As there is very little eye contact. He also liked to spin wheels as a child and spin around. He does that at times even now.
When I tell him stop or freeze he laughs at me but does not stop. Should I be worried. What can I do so that I can make better eye contact with him.
Holly Kieser says
Hi, I’m a bit worried about my nearly 1 year old, he was born term. He didn’t start babbling until he was 8 months old, he sat up at 8 months. Roll over from front to back 10 months, back tofront at 11 months. Said dada at 11 months. No other words, he cant crawl or pull himself up yet. He just sit in one position and doesn’t tempt to move. He doesn’t really play with toys he prefers to watch the TV when on. When he gets upset or excited he moves his wrists round in circles fast. I’m worried about autism as my older son is aspergers and my brother is mild to moderate autism. He is under PT for his motor skills and not making much progress. They have told me he is delayed but not by how much.i told them I was worried about autism and they basically made me feel like I’m crazy. We don’t have early intervention here in uk, so I don’t know what to do. He has traits but I got toldthey wouldn’t consider assessment until at least 18 months?
Would be so grateful for your feedback
Faith Markle says
My son did all the things listed above. He had a huge vocabulary, was very interactive and happy, did a lot of pretend play. At age 6 he was diagnosed with autism. I got a second opinion and he was still on the spectrum. I’m not trying to say, “Worry,” because that’s never productive. But if your older child is having trouble, don’t rule out autism just because he or she met all these milestones.
Daisy says
My son suffered a stroke when he was born. The initial prediction was he would present with a physical disability, however he amazed us all by being exceptionally physically able with no physical presentation of his stroke. However, my son is now two years old and does not speak. He makes some sounds, can lead you to things he wants and is very quick at picking things up, sometimes completely by himself with no encouragement. He has a speech and language therapist currently assessing him and is in nursery three times a week to support his development. We are encouraged when we see him making progress; interacting with his brother, initiating games, but still no words of any kind, and some days he is completely mute. I was just wondering if anyone else has a similar experience.
Thanks,
Rosie says
Hi Dr Swanson:
My son is 18 months old, he pretty much has hit all of milestones, but then I hear or read things that make me question if he is ok. For instance he will respond to his name when i call him but not every time, also he will wave good bye but not all of the times. He brings me toys or whatever he finds for me to look at but sometimes he will pull my hand or push me in a certain direction so that I either can get something for him or take him somewhere. Is this something I should worry about. Also, I know that sometimes he likes to interact with another children at the park but a lot of time he likes to do his own thing like pick up rocks, sticks or whatever.
jennifer says
Hi Dr. Swanson.
Our son was born at 36 weeks and is almost 11 months. He responds to his name and is crawling, standing, and cruising, but does not point, clap, or wave. Is it too early to be expecting him to do these things? He does laugh, smile, make eye contact, and imitate us in other ways (funny faces). Autism runs on my husband’s side of the family, and I am a worrier. Thank you.
Belal says
My son is 9 month old now days he Dose not response to his name much like before. Before from 6 to 8 month he did look who called his name but now days he don’t do much but some times he do. But other things he do just as 9 month should do. Should I be worry? Cause my wife is making me nuts.
Thanks
JeF says
Hi Dr Swanson
My son is 8 months old he laughs with interation however other times he is continuously girning or whining or crying. That’s really the only sounds he makes other than a high pitch squeal. Do u think its of concern he’s not really babbling or cooing??
brittanyG says
Hi I have a concern about my son he is 20 months old. He loves his toys and love books and pretending to read he even turns the pages by himself.he does like when I read to him he sits with me n helps turn the pages. Love TV and watching movies..when he was born he came right on time when he was supposed to but had fluid in his lungs so they had to keep him in the baby nursery for a day I didn’t even get to hold him until a few hours after I gave birth to was so sad about that. From the time we brought him home he was fed every two hours because of jaundice.but was a great sleeper.he learned very fast as he grew but now iam thinking that he is slowing down in some area of his learning..
These are some things I’m concerned about
He doesn’t eat with a fork or spoon he would rather chew on it or throw it
He dose not like many foods but sometimes I seek them in n it works like one time then refuses to eat good food that he should have idk but would like to know is pbj ok?
He never points he’s only done that when he was younger but never at anything he wanted only in the air or at me or my husband
He says Dada, dougie ,what’s this, is it good,and the rest he talks but can’t understand him it’s more jibber jabber he’s only ever said mommy two times
I’m and stay at home mom so I dnt understand why he won’t say mommy ever idk if dougie is his way of saying it but would like to know what to do ?
He has this problem with screaming all the time in the car ride,in stores ,for no reason that I can see, in his crib or when playing
he’s seems mad all the time hitting slapping and kicking me when I try to change him but then some of the times it turns into excitement and he flaps his arms and smiles and giggles ?
I’ll ask him to play with somthing other than the thing he is going for n he will look right at me and walk over and push over things and bangs on things ..about the banging he does it all the time right along with slapping I thought I had it figured out with him but it’s only getting worse
when he was brought home from the hospital he never really looked at me he always looked in corners and he seemed to stop doing that and look at us once in awhile while playing with him or any kinda interaction but it’s never been looking right us unless he’s waiting for a response on somthing he shouldn’t do i dnt know what to do. He does this odd thing with his head it’s not a normal head shake for no it started when he was about 8 months old where he would shake his head making it look like it was vibrating at the same time with his eyes doing he same thing very scary to me. My husband is the one who pointed it out to me …for my son though it’s like he has no fear he dnt drink from a straw and dnt seem like he can hear me when I say his name I have a video of him with me trying to talk to him and say his name over and over again n he persisted on doing his own thing only seeing me once I notice it and ll the time but everyone else is telling me he is fine but I’m the one with him 24/7 no brakes. I feel Ike I’m going crazy. He hates being played with at times as well he will just push me away or push anyone away that comes near him I tired to talk to him in and ll way he would understand.he rocks and sways back notice forth when playing or watching somthing. I’m afraid that there could be somthing wrong with him he also does this thing with head banging . And yes I know baby at his age do that but he does it at times for no reason it’s like he wants to hurt himself he bangs toys o n his head and hits himself and pulls his hair and his ears we have been to the doctors and told them n they said it could be bc of teething but I dnt think the at the only reason.he can stack blocks and repeat what you show him he can color (just started learning ) but would rather eat them. He don’t seem to focus well for to long .when he eats and dnt want it he will throw the food on the floor and swip all over onto the floor. I’ve tried different methods with hi n v but nothing seems to work he loves jumping up and down all over the place and even in his crib I know he enjoys being a baby but I feel he should be able to do more than he is doing ..they say all baby’s are not the same and I know this but the thing is my friends son is younger Han my so and does about everything my son at his age should be doing and most of it he isn’t . I really need help please respond I really need advise. My husband and everyone else are looking at me like iam crazy I just want to make sure my baby boy is ok
brittanyG says
Another thing is he isn’t that balanced on the ground as well as standing on a high object. He just seems to fall over himself at times on the ground. My son doesn’t seem to to me understand a lot of what you say to him it’s like it goes in one ear and out the other. I know he’s learning his independents right now but I don’t know what to do I feel like iam alone in this .
See when my husband is off from work he bends the rules about things and doesn’t understand that disapline in him and the next minute joking about it are confusing him I feel like I get no help on his part …but that’s besides the point my son has this thing with throwing toys and knocking things over with his space he sometimes sounds like he speck in in different languages is that normal because that why I feel I can’t understand him but when everyone else hears him it’s like omg did you hear that he just said this I really hear him talk but it never sounds like anything I should know I am with him all the time n he has just started to tap me to get my attention witch is great but what do you do about him h jutting screaming and slapping himself and to others is like he needs to do it to hear a sounds but that’s the thing I don’t know if he is allowing himself to hear and listen to what he wants to right now or it might be some kind of problem bc I know he dose not like when I touch his face or try to clean his ears n forget about clipping his nails it’s like he’s being murder he cry’s and
I try to talk to him about these things in a calm manor but he just keeps going .there are points when I try n all I can do is ignore him but come back feeling a bit better and try to calm him down n it seems to work sometimes if u can plz help
Susan says
Hi, I’m so worried about my son and have been since he was born. Even earlier knowing the rates of autism are so crazy hi. He is nine months old and babbles and claps and waves but has always had very sketchy eye contact. Everyone says in crazy and he will look at me sometimes but always for a second and then looks around. He will look longer if he’s trapped in his car seat but otherwise he’s always looking at everything other than me. What do they mean by “eye contact”?
Worried Mom says
Hi Dr. Swanson,
My son has just taken the M-Chat @ 18 months and is being referred for further evaluation because he scored a 3 or 4 on it. The questionnaire is not specific and is leading me to believe that my child is fine; unless I’m in denial. He has been a little delayed with his motor skills (late crawler and late walker). These are the questions that we failed. #13 Does your child walk? He does walk, yet he prefers to crawl. He can walk about 15 steps then begins crawling; his father was a late walker as well. #5 Does your child make unusual finger movement near his eyes? With a fully extended arm occasionally he does wiggle his fingers and looks at his hands? #6 & #7 Does your child use his index finger to point at things that he wants or to show you something interesting? He does not point with his finger towards things, he goes to them and smiles, tries to get it himself, claps his hands, says “this,” babbles, or says mama to get my attention, or grabs my hand and leads me to what ever it is…
Am I in denial or should I have answered yes to these questions which would have passed him? I now have a referral to a neurologist, physical therapy, and an autism center for further screening… His pediatrician did say that she doesnt believe that he has autism, yet she wants to make sure since his motor skills are delayed… This screening tool is so grey; leaves a lot to interpretation which makes me upset that no one can given me clear answers…
Fred says
Hello doctor
I have two children. My daughter is almost 4 and developing very well and my son is 20months and has a speech delay and is a toe walker.
He says about a dozen words but mostly when he repeats us.
There are a few other red flags that concern us. He doesn’t retain these words after he says them. For example, if I point to mama and say mama a few times he may say it. We praise him and he gets all excited, smiles and laughs and looks very proud and shy about it. He may say it again a few times and smile But if I ask him at that time or later….”who’s this?” and point to her again, he won’t say mama very often on his own.
One big problem we see that concern is is the fact that he has said words relating to objects on his own before but no longer does this. (There were two particular words very early on)
For example, he has a stuffed toy he sleeps with and prior to bedtime we use to say “ok it’s time for bed, get puppy!” He use to say “papa” and go and find it. He no longer says it. He only does if we keep saying it And he catches on.
He follows directions quite well, he points whenever we ask him where object are in our surroundings or books, he makes eye contact, he’s very affectionate, he laughs and plays with my wife and I, my daughter and other children as well. We see very positive results in a lot of areas.
We are very happy about this but fear as time goes on he may lose more if his skills and communication.
We have taken him for his first appointment with a “speech pathologist” today but I’m still very anxious about it.
My concern is autism because we really can’t get an answer about it.
I realize there are screenings to go through but here in Canada things move quite slowly as far as the tools we have for these situations.
Should my wife and I be worried?
What other things can we do. Can I get any type of editing for him in the USA?
Please let me know.
Fred
Mellissa says
I had some concerns about my 14 month old daughters communication development. I brought it up to our Dr and she just said to wait and not worry. However, even thought the MCHAT-R is designed for 16 months and up, she scored a 9. That concerns me and I am interested in early intervention. Especially since autism can be reversed with early intervention. We are also concerned about Mercury exposure and Aluminum exposure from vaccines causing inflammation of the brain, and delays. All of this was scoffed at by our Dr. Where can we go for more resources? I live in South Florida. Any help or referrals is much appreciated. Thank you!
Brandi says
I have concerns about my 32 month olds speech. She can say tons of words.. Can tell you what animals say what.. Point things out in books, answer what color is__, what shape is__, who is___. But a ton of what she says are things she repeats. (From movies, things she’s heard us say etc. ) she mixes up Me You and I sometimes. (For example “pick you up!” Instead of pick me up) she has no problems with eye contact and actually seems to enjoy looking in eyes. She can say things like ” want a waffle” “take jacket off” and such. She plays with toys like pretends to talk on the toy phone or will beat a drum, roll balls down ramps..she does line up action figures sometimes. She is very stubborn in general and throws screaming fits if at the dr/dentist. So I fear they will have a hard time getting her cooperation for an evaluation. We are waiting for an appointment with her pediatrician to discuss our concerns but would like any input.
Vickie Smith says
I also have concerns about my 3rd Child he will be 20 months old on the 26th of Feb and as yet has only just began to walk and as yet no speech other than Mum and dada. We are have had tests done and are waiting back on results but had our referral appointment back in Sept. He has a strong facsination with looking at lights and strangely anything round?!? He is very set in his ways with his eating and will only eat certain foods and if these aren’t available can get very upset to the point of on one occasion pulling my hair out! Is there any advice? We’re also still feeding him and holding his bottle for him and i’m quite anxious Help!!!! 🙁
jo maha says
Hello Doc,
My son is now nearly 15 months old. He responds to his name, shows loads of emotions,he reached all his milestone early.
He however has still not got any words, he babbles a lot but and if i sing a song like row row row the boat, he makes those actions. He understands when i say no . He still doesnt point with his index finger though, he points his hand at things that interests him and makes sounds to get my attention so i get it to him. sometimes he walks upto me and takes me along with him to where his object of interest is. like if he wants a cookie , he pulls me to the kitchen. So far I have had no trouble understanding what he wants and he has had no trouble understanding me. He also plays very well with his toys. Should i be concerned that he is not using his index finger to point or not yet started to wave . also should i worry about his lack of many words.
sarah rodriguez says
My son is 17 months old. He says mama, dada&baba. He doesnt like to play with his siblings, just me&his father. He response to peek-a-boo&patty cake(pulling my hands away from eyes&when i stop playing pattycake hell grab my hands&make them clap). He doesnt look when i point at things, i have to put it in front of him. He only looks 5/10 times when i call his name. im almost positive his hearing is fine, he loves cartoons with singing. If hes is his crib&i walk in the room he automatically looks at me or if i call him&he cant see me but i can see him hell look for me. He reaches his arms up to be picked up&will reach for things if he wants them. I have 5 children, ages 4&under, maybe him not having my full attention constantly could be the cause of the way hes acting. I didnt think of him as acting different untill my father in law said he thought he was autistic. i havent asked his dr because my husband suggested im being paranoid. Ive been spending more one on one time with him to try&help his development. I cant help but panic i just want my little one to be okay. I would love to hear your thoughts or recommendations.
Thank you, Sarah.
Mimi B. says
Hello Doc,
I am concerned about my 2 1/2 year old son. He is a happy and loving little boy but what concerns me most is his speech. I spoke to his pediatrician when he was about 25 months and he was evaluated for speech therapy but was denied. The therapist said he is on his level and he uses jargon but that is fine because it’s apart of the developmental process. He knows about 50 words and some 2-3 word pharses but he doesn’t use his words to express himself daily. If he wants something he will either cry and whine or grab you and bring you to what he wants. He has just recently started to ask for cookies when he wants one by saying “cookie” or “juice” or “water” e.t.c. Also he is very smart at using technology. He ask to speak to his Grandma daily and he knows how to take my phone, find her name in my contact list and call her. When she answers he will respond…”Hi Grandma…how are you? He loves to talk to her but he just babbles away and doesn’t pause to let her respond. He laughs as if he is telling her a joke and will randomly say Grandma as if he is confirming that she is understanding what he is saying to her. He recognizes and knows alot of people he sees on a regular basis by their name and will address them as such. He plays well with other kids, he laughs, he points and he has always responded to his name and can follow instructions to the T! He knows and recognizes all his ABC’S, can count 1-15, most of his shapes and colors but when talking in a conversation it is mostly jargon and a word or two here and there. Is this normal for his age? He also randomly recites the alphabet, counts, says lines from his favorite shows and repeats almost everything we say to him. They said they will reevaluate him again when he is 3 but I just feel like if there is an issue, precious time is being wasted. It doesn’t help that my husband feels that he is fine and I need to stop worrying. I guess as a mom…it’s hard not to worry. Help me please!
SarahM says
Hi
My son is now 19 months but was 3.5 weeks early. He is a very happy and affectionate chap, loves playing outside, patting dogs, smiles at us a lot, laughs a lot with us (really gets the giggles), initiates cuddles with me and his dad, loves his comforter toys, likes playing with other children (I’ve only seen him do this 1 on 1 and not in a group of children), can pile lots of blocks on top of each other, babbles loads, occasionally points BUT he is a terrible eater and sleeper (this may be linked to reflux – he still has it and is on medication for this) and more worryingly I’m not sure he knows his name and he only has a few words – mama and he said cuckoo a couple of times after seeing a cuckoo on TV. He occasionally spins in circles which I’ve heard can be a sign – but he doesn’t do it compulsively – he’ll do it a couple of times every 3-4 days, whilst looking at us and laughing when he falls over when he’s dizzy. I think he thinks it’s a joke. I’m worried about the fact he doesn’t seem to recognise his name (he turns if we shout it but otherwise seems to filter it out) or many words or understand simple commands like pick up a toy. He’ll do it if you point and then he works out what you mean through trial and error. Any words of wisdom would really be appreciated. Thanks
Ray says
Hello fellow parents,
My 19 month old daughter plays makes eye contact she imitates me and my wife waves bye bye and shakes her no when she doesn’t want something she also says a few words but what worries me is that she doesn’t respond to her name any advice.
anin says
My 16 month old is not walking without a baby walker for support. He was a late crawler but I put this down to him being overweight and having a large head when he was smaller. He does not have any proper words apart from mama and dada. He does not point or gesture towards anything he wants. He headbuts when he is frustrated or wants something. He responds to his name 50% of the time. He has recently started waving and clapping his hands. I have been told by the HV he does have a 4 month delay. Does it sound like he might have autism?
Nikki says
Hi… My daughter is 26 months …. She understand what I say but not talking yet … She just say mama ,, papa, da,s, ko , ta..ta, ooooo, Mami , two,so…. And babling on her own language . She likes to watch nursery rhymes and do action for every rhymes and she operates tablet on her own .,, … Basically at home just me and my husband are there n we both r working n at a time just 1 person is there so may be she is not speaking yet… Otherwise is active dancing but very stubborn … Any ideas so I can teach her to speak
Torri says
Hi there. I am a very worried mom of a 14 month old. My son knew his name at 4 months, smiled and laughed at 3 months. He still continues to enjoy life, plays a lot, laughs a lot. Some things are very unsettling, he does not point, wave, talk, seem to understand common requests or respond to his name anymore. My doctor gave me until 15 months to see where he is at the point, certainly not for a lack of trying, but my son is not catching up on these milestones. He will be gping into daycare soon and we will be moving, I am really hoping the change will reflect in a positive way.
I am feeling very discouraged, and not sure what to do.
Buvana says
Hi torri, I am also suffer with ur same problem. But how can cure this? I don’t know. He play well and laugh but not understand our request?. Plz anybody help us?
Amita Singh says
Hi
My 17 month old son babbles a lot. He repeats certain words he has heard. He says Mama and Dada but I am not sure if he has linked these to his parents. He has a slight squint He walks well, loves to play on the cell phone. He can communicate as in if he wants the mobile he will attempt to grab it. If he wants to go for a car ride, he will go near the car and try to open it. He will follow me outside. He imitates being on the phone. He feeds himself. He responds to his name. My only worry is he does not point and he does not have words. Is my son on the spectrum. Very worried. Kindly answer.
Amita Singh says
Also forgot to add, he understands if I say Here, take the mobile or Bring your shorts.So he does have some level of grasping ability. Kindly answer if possible.
vicky says
my child is 16 months but still he don’t say a single word and when we call him by his name he don’t respond he don’t crawl also and when we ring a bell or play baby piano in front of him he was afraid of that and get his hand back and start crying.He did not to do things what a 15 months child do.We do many tests but all reports are normal he is busy with a ball rotating it on his hands only
i am really disappointed of his growth please advise me what to do
sege says
Hi doc,
I have a 28 months old boy who says few words.he calls me ma…and calls his father ba,grandfather dada…etc.when he wants something he grabs our hand to that and point.when he wants water he asks that by saying mummum.when he wants to sleep he can say dt.he loves to play with her elder sister.he follows some directions….like get the ball, let us go,wave bye bye,come here etc.but other than these he can’t understand.even if i scold him he understands it and cry.now my question what will i do to make him follow what we say??do i need to wait and spend more time with him for working on it.
sege says
I want to add that he can point things like if he watched any insect on the floor he points that and show us.
Zara Zehra says
Hey doc,
I have a 14 month old son (will turn 14 in 2 days). My husband thinks that he has autism although he looks perfectly fine to me. My son’s first cousin is autistic so maybe that’s what is making my husband worry more. My son responds to his name, babbles a lot, wave, clap, shakes his head for no and yes, makes eye contact with us and strangers and is very social (loves playing with other children and adults in and outside the family). However he does not point as yet and does a lot of hand flapping. Also he says a few words like ba for ball and only a few times said baba and mama. Should I be worried because of his hand flapping, not pointing and less vicabvocabulary?
Zara Zehra says
I forgot to mention he follows command properly. If we say put the blocks in the bag he does that, bring the ball he does that. He enjoys playing pee ka boo and pass the ball.
Zara Zehra says
Also he does not walk as yet. He walks with the support of furniture but stands independently. He walks when we make him walk by holding his wrist.
Susan J says
My almost 10 month old granddaughter (she’s a twin) was born at 33 weeks (so she’s about 8 months adjusted). So far the doctors have attributed her delay to prematurity, but I am pretty concerned. She goes to OT and PT once per week each (getting ready to have in home pt also). She is still unable to grasp items and although she is starting to make happy noises and giggle, it is not normally in response to anything we do (except tickling, which usually makes her giggle). She is not sitting up yet but is much closer than she was. And although she cannot grasp, she reaches out and tries to open her hands (they open more and more each week) and pulls objects to her. PT and OT people seem pleased with her progress.They are going to begin to use kinesiology tape on her this week.
She has terrible reflux (takes zantac) and had/has torticollis. What bothers me most is that she seems to not focus on us very often. Her sister responds to everything and is apparently an “overachiever” (per the neuro) for a preemie. We try not to compare them, but it is difficult. We have had to give chin and cheek support to her for bottle feedings but she seems to be doing some better with that. Eats off a spoon very well.
She returns to the neuro next month and will see the Ophthalmologist also (appears to have slight eye turn).
Anyone ever have a similar experience? Thanks
J. S. says
I believe it is a good idea to encourage parents to not worry excessively about their child’s development, but the reassurance in this article is not completely accurate. The development of Autistic traits in children can follow multiple presentations; not all children who will be diagnosed with an Autistic Spectrum Disorder by age five presented with abnormal development before age one. Regressive Autism involves normal development followed by a sudden onset of loss of previously gained developmental skills. For example, my son met almost every one of the developmental skill listed in this article. He was clearly presenting with what appeared to be normal development Yet between ages two and three, he suffered several developmental regressions that lead to diagnosis of Regressive Autism at age three. We do not currently understand the genetic or environmental etiologies that lead to development of Autism Spectrum Disorders. As long as that remains the case, we cannot with clear certainty predict who will and will not develop disorders on the “Spectrum”.
ABBY says
I have a gut feeling something is wrong, I hope to be told otherwise.
My son just turned 14months old, and I’ve started to noticed weird things in his behavior.
He was born at 37 weeks, soley breastfed for 9 months, introduced formula solids afterwards
1. He doesn’t wave or Point [? does poking at objects in books count?}, he only gestures “NO” {shaking his head}, when I’m feeding him. (It seems he wants to wave at times, he’ll flap a hand when we wave at him).
2. He doesn’t associate my husband and myself with our titles’ as “mama, dada”, he’ll say it but no association. He babbles a lot (makes a lot of vowel sounds, occasionally will say “mama, dada”, and I’ve heard a “NO” here and there, and does grunt a lot}
3. Just started hand flapping (apparently when he’s excited, per a “child development personnel (parent’s as teachers group in my area).
4. He does smile when you smile at him, has GREAT EYE CONTACT
5. Loves clapping! He will clap objects together, his hands together, clap upon command, he will clap when no one else is clapping and will continue to clap for several minutes at a time.
6. He does engage in social play (when you roll a ball to him, he will roll it back (although not always in the same direction), but he is obsessed with spinning wheels on cars (though it doesn’t last long, he’ll rather spin the wheel than play with it)
6. Does respond to his name 80% of the time (doesn’t when he is focused on something)
7. Met all his physical developmental milestones (pushing himself up, walking etc.)
How does it look? My pediatrician wants to wait and see.
Cara Finn says
Hi Abby! At my son’s 15 month check up, my Doc also wanted to wait and see until he’s 18 months old. The main concern for my son is that he doesn’t use any words, not even Mama or Dada (babbles but nothing in context). I did some research on my own into Early Intervention, and learned that my county’s service takes 2-3 months from the first phone call to the start of therapy. (The process is: screening to see if you’re eligible for services, then a hearing test if you’re eligible, and then an in-depth evaluation for type of services, and then schedule the services). So – for us – my son will likely be starting speech therapy a couple of weeks before he turns 18 months. If I were you I’d talk to the Doc at the 15 month check, and if still concerned, start that process so you’re set up with services by 18 months (if needed). I figured if my son suddenly starts using words, we can always cancel – but if not – I’d rather he have started by 18 months than 21 months! (Private therapy can move more quickly). I’m personally comfortable waiting until 18 months to start therapy. Just thought I’d share my thoughts and what we’re doing in case it helps you!
Jade says
My Son is 16months old now. He plays with only a few toys but throws others around instead. He is not in a temper when he does this its just what he does. He does not clap his own hands but will take yours and clap them together so you will play for him. He doesn’t point at anything to get it and only says one word – Daddy. He seems very tired at times and when he focuses on the TV you can’t pull him away. He will respond to his name but sometimes its like he pretends he doesn’t hear you. Other than his name its like he barely understands what you are saying. He does babble alot but no other proper words but Daddy. I am scared. Can someone help?
Sarah says
Hi,I e noticed many people have asked questions but little (if any in the more recent ones) get replies? I have a question regarding concerning behaviour (not pointing waving etc) but my son has glue ear. How much can be put down to his hearing? Don’t want to write a long essay on what he is/isn’t doing if I’m not going to get a response. Thanks
Wendy Sue Swanson, MD, MBE says
Hi Sarah,
Thanks for your comment. I’ve shied away from providing personal responses to these questions after responding to a few at the top that highlight my belief that personal health advice should be discussed with your primary care provider whenever possible. Often I’ll leave comments unanswered and allow the crowd of expert and informed parents to chime in, as some have done here.
Don’t write out a long response if you’re expecting me to provide a medical consultation. But if you have questions for the public and and readers or are looking for specific research or data you want to be connected with perhaps I can help. Thanks!
Carli says
I took my almost 11 month old to a developmental screening. He’s 1-2 months behind on gross motor skills, but they’re mostly worried about communication. He doesn’t babble. Once every week or two he’ll say “bababa” a few times and then stop. That’s it. Otherwise only yelling, grunting or humming noises. Also, he doesn’t point, wave, or look at something I point to. I don’t think he understands “no” and I’m not convinced he knows his name.
They suggested group therapy. I will meet with them again in two weeks, but my husband seems pretty dead set against this. He thinks speech therapy for a child this young is ridiculous. Anyone know what therapy for an 11 month old entails? If it’s just talking to him and repetition, isn’t that just as day to do at home?
simmy sebastian says
Hi Dr Swanson,
I am so worried for my son who will turn 18 months in July.He is generally a very happy child.loves to be cuddled.loves when people come to visit. no words yet but babbles a lot.he is so much into putting things to his mouth.he wants to experiance everything with his mouth first,for eg. paper,spoons,clothing.no matter what i do,he just does not stop it. I have an older son too(2.5yrs) who was much more advanced at this age ,though his speech was delayed too. my younger one does not point or wave.sometimes i think he has this obsession to put things in his mouth that he does not want to do anything else.He responds to his name by babbling.Could you please advice me of anything?
destiney says
my son just turning one today actually is always shaking his head no back and forth a lot along with his hands he has finger flicking occasionally. He also has not and will not bring anything to his mouth other than his sippy cup and thumb he won’t even try to eat food by himself he just stares and it and cries or picks it up and throws it . If we hand him a spoon with food in it he screams he don’t like it in his hands . Different textures are making him gag and he won’t chew either just swallow. The only words he is saying is mom and dad and he isn’t pulling up or anything he just started crawling 2 weeks ago . I feel like he has sensory issues even his feet he don’t like touching the ground with when u stand him up. I am worried he is autistic and if he is worried how bad it could get and if it’s reversable I want him to live a normal life and I’m scared he wont. Some people say he is delayed but after giving him his cake for his bday I had to put his hand in it and he screamed tell it was off him when I gave him a bite he gagged I’m really worried and not sure what to do .
Bhattacharyya says
Dear Doctor, I found your blog very informative. My 18 months old son is diagnosed to have speech delay. He had RSV at 12 months with high fever and hospitalisation. He learnt to walk at 17 months! He can speak around 4 words, imitates few songs and watches TV for long time. He is very loving, not much tantrum, he tries to understand my reactions and even tries to impress me when he wants something. However he does not consistently respond to calling to his name. At that time he goes to blank state, seeing elsewhere but not at my eye. He waved at 12 months, but he does not point at object with finger even now. He takes my finger and points if he really wants to know something. He can follow my finger and take one or two simple direction. His motor skills are also weak but is improving. Our paediatrician said not to worry because he is going to a Japanese daycare while we speak english at home. My question is should I get him checked for autism right now?
Tiergirl3.0 says
I am taking care of my nephew because he was drug exposed in utero. He didnt make eye contact or respond to sound (other than loud sounds) until he was almost 4 months. He has been walking in his walker since 4 months. He is now almost 11 months old. He has to have eye contact at all times and gets mad when he looks at you but you dont look at him. He is just now able to put food in his mouth on his own and sit unassisted but he does fall over still every now and then and does not use his hands to rebalance. He is still not crawling but he does scoot on his belly. He still has problems rollong from his back to his stomach, he can do it but it takes him a while. only wants to he affectionate when he is hurt. He kisses strangers but not people he sees everyday. He walks on his tip toes his heels never touch the ground. He will not watch tv. The only time he looks at it is when the music and credits run. He gets mad if he cant see it on the tv. He goes to sleep easy but dont stay asleep. He seems to have a tic that he has had since birth. He does not try to mimic anything with his hands.only says mama and dada but I dont think he knows who is who. He is so different from my kids and just wondering if I should be concerned.
Lisa Jones says
Hi, I have a 23 month old who I have had concerns about. At 18 months I realized he didn’t point and he never waved. From that point it was other little things such as not responding to his name when hes playing and sometimes flaps his hands when he gets upset and likes to walk on his toes. At 18 months he said about 15 words. I since them have calmed down a lot and have been amazed at how smart my son has become but I am still concerned hes not where he should be and I don’t know if its a learning disorder or hes a late talker. He says about 26 words, randomly. we work on flash cards and he knows the pictures and can point to them correctly and also can name 7 of them he can also recognize them by words as well. He knows how to put all his puzzels together. What worries me is I read hes suppose to have about 50 words and he should be pointing to tell me what he wants. He communicates by pulling me or reaching with his whole hand or by making a noise to get what he wants. He listens and follows commands such as sit down or bring me your shoes. Should I be worried?
Megan says
My daughter is almost 15 months and is saying zero words. I honestly wasn’t concerned about it at all; my sister is the youngest in the family (at 25 now) and with me just 2 years older, I have no experience around babies. I just assumed she wasn’t talking yet because she was a baby. She babbles a lot, but says no real words. She doesn’t point (although I think I may have seen her do it once). She doesn’t really respond to her name- I always thought she was just being selective and ignoring me. She will play with me sort of but she doesn’t really sit and play with toys like most children. Should I be worried?
Elsa says
You have milestones like “Copies your gestures like pointing, clapping, or waving” listed but I don’t see an age associated with it. My son is 10.5 months and has zero gestures. He’s very happy, smiley, laughs, sleeps well, wants attention and to be cuddled, responds to his name maybe 30% of the time with me but probably close to 80% when my daughter is saying it. He has great eye contact, great fine and gross motor skills. But doesn’t wave, clap, point, show us toys, give toys when I ask. Babbles fairly decently (dadada, babababa, yayayaya, wawawawa, bwabwabwa, etc). He will sometimes look at what I’m pointing to, sometimes look at my finger, sometimes just ignore me completely. He has an appointment at CHDD next week but I’ve been worrying myself sick. How worried do I need to be about autism? He failed the social aspect of the CSBS (that I administered myself) which seems to be a good predictor of a future autism dx.
Cara Finn says
Hi Elsa! Obviously not an expert – but I think gestures are a milestone more for the 12-15 month range. https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/csb/itc/getting-started/developmental-checklist-english.htm
Cara Finn says
Interesting post! We’re getting my 16 month old son into Early Intervention. The hearing test is today, and the in-depth evaluation in a few weeks (he qualified based on the screening). We’re mainly doing it because he doesn’t have any words. He babbles up a storm, but doesn’t even use Mama or Dada in context. Apparently the standard is 1 word beyond Mama and Dada by 15 months. He waves sometimes, claps and does high-five, and sort of points at books sometimes. He thinks shaking your head is funny, so he doesn’t shake for no/nod for yes. He can be very social with great eye contact, but when he’s running around playing he’ll ignore us maybe 50% of the time (but I think that’s normal)? He rarely responds to his name, but if I get his attention and say “Where’s your car?” (and maybe 2 other toys) he’ll look for and find it. Anyway – of course I’m concerned about autism, but hoping he’s “just” a late talker! Early Intervention takes 2-3 months from calling them to the first appointment with a therapist, so I’d encourage parents not to wait if they’re concerned.
Cara Finn says
Sorry – one more comment! It would be good to recommend to folks that if they’re even just slightly concerned, they do not wait to make an appointment with a developmental pediatrician. The reason I saw this, is that the wait time to see developmental pediatricians can be a year or more! I called in July to make an appointment, and we’re being seen in May. So – I decided to make an appointment when my son was 15 months old, and he’ll be seen just after he turns 2! We figure 2 would be a good age to be seen if he’s still behind – and we can always cancel if he develops enough to no longer be concerned by then. You don’t want to wait until there’s a serious concern at age 2-3, and then have to wait a year to be seen!
Kole Lee says
Hello,
My daughter is 5 months – turning 6 months in a couple of weeks. She smiles often, on her own and when we play and tickle her, but not all the time. She babbled for a while when she was 3-4 months but now she doesn’t do it near as much. Very rarely, actually. She laughs, slightly, sometimes when we tickle her and she makes eye contact every now and then, but not all the time. She still can’t sit by herself it grab her feet, and she doesn’t crawl and hardly ever rolls over. She doesn’t grab on to things on her own and she doesn’t keep a hold of things for long. She cries when upset and arches her back. I’m just a little worried because she hasn’t hit many of the 5-6 month milestones.
Thank you.
Racell Clancy says
Hi Dr. Swanson
I have a daughter, now 12 months and 14 days. So her characteristics that makes me anxious sometimes is that she doesnt respond to her name when she is doing or engaged in something. Well actually sometimes she does, sometimes she doesnt. However when we are not at home though say like when we are grocery shopping, she would sit in the cart and would follow me with her gaze when I stroll a little bit away from the cart and would turn to me and smile when I call her. She plays with her toys but just for a while. She likes to scatter them, check hold some of them for a while and go about the house pulling cords, pulling stuff from the organizers, trying to go under chairs etc. She prefers to check out other stuff in the house that are not toys.She also doesnt care for stuffed animals, but we co-sleep so she doesnt go to bed with any.She does this flapping thing usually with an excited expression on her face or anxious to get that bottle or to be picked up. When I ask her and show her how to kiss she stares sometimes she doesnt care sometimes she would try in the form of her mouth opened to my cheek. With all this she has always been quite social. She stares and smiles at kids or tries to touch them. She doesnt call me mama or anything but calls daddy ‘dada’. She loves her cousins , she gets excited when she sees them. She had her stranger anxiety at about 5-8 months and got better 9 mos to present. She still has it just a little bit. She would generally smile at people who greet her. She also still in the cruising stage, not yet walking by herself. She imitates my tone when I sing, and bops to upbeat music. Also she loves songs from Frozen(and the movie). She hasnt really what we could call her first words yet, she would say dada, and mumble mama and but mumbles and bables many other jargon of letters and syllables. Please I hope you could respon to me Dr. Swanson.
Rasa says
Hello Annie,
You described our 18 month old son to a T! Was wondering if you would be willing to share an update.
Thank you!
Rasa
linda bowdler says
hi my daughter is 16 and half months .. she has three older siblings is extremely shy with any one but us.. her attachment is so bad if she not with me or her dad she is really bad where she will sit in one spot till we are there. if anyone comes into house she goes really quiet and sits beside me or her dad. she not saying many word but when she says new words she never says them again.. she an crawl walk on knees and along couches,.. Cannot stand unaided or walk and if she walks holding ur two hands she will do it on her tippee toes and then sit down after a couple of seconds.. Im worried as with older siblings i thought she be flying around.. any advice would be great..
Devon weidman says
Okay so we have a 16 month old. Completely normal birth and for the most part was a normal baby. He was slower to roll over, sit up on his own, and crawl. Some of which I blamed myself for not giving him the chance to learn since we had hardwoods and I didn’t let him just roll around. I also used a walker. He’s our second so we have a good idea what is normal and what isn’t. At 16 months he isn’t babbling much, he makes noises just not real babbling, he doesn’t walk but likes to try and has taken 4 steps on his own, makes eye contact, happy baby, half the time looks up when called by name, I’ve even questioned hearing and sight, always has hands around mouth and even flaps his fingers (started mostly after teeth came in but has always been a thumb sucker), has never played with toys like you’d expect (always does the flapping motion when interacting with toys), seems okay with people and other kids, giggles, laughs, and is pretty cuddly. I’m sure I’m missing some things but he basically acts like a 10 month old. We are having someone come out to watch him and evaluate, then we will talk with a doctor to decide what to do next. He really concerns me with being positive for autism. The online evaluation rated him as high risk. He’s a happy baby, sleeps well, loves interacting with his brother and other children, but the key things like flapping and no real babbling or effort to say anything is by far the most concerning. We will do whatever therapy he needs to give him the best chance as he ages, but I can’t help but worry in the mean time.
Aurelie DAVID says
Hi Doctor,
I have a 15 month old boy. He´s hit all his communications milestones,is very cuddly,joyful loves seeing our friends and playing with other toddlers, imitâtes us, pretend to talk on the phone etc. I have 2 concerns. The 1st one is that, even though he points all the time at everything he wants me to name or things he simply wants to have, he dosen´t point if I command him to, like “Where´s the cat ?” (he simply look around and Watch the cat). Except twice when he pointed his nose when I asked him too. But if I try 5 minutes later he prétends not understand.
Or if I ask him where is bottle is, for example, he doesn´t react. But if I say “where is the dog ?” he says “woof woof” but doesn´t point the dog (although all animals are “woof woof” to him). #
And my second concern is that I´ve realized that there are words he used to say around 13 months that he doesn´t say anymore, but now say few more words. There were times when he said “mama” when he was upset, and times when he never does (it´s been a while now). He used to say several times “it´s good” when he ate something, but now he only say “mmm” accompanying with a circle gesture on his tummy. But “allo” is the word he says almost everyday, pretending to have a conversation on the phone.
What do you think ? I´m scared when I read that a mommy realized her boy was autistic, although he´s hit all his milesones except a language delay…
Thanks (sorry for my English, I´m french)
Aurelie
Aurelie DAVID says
I forgot to menton that he responds fine to his name, has great eye contact and babbles a lot.
Sharon Schou says
Hi Dr!
First I want to give you a short background about my son.My son is 2 years and 9 months old.
His name is David. A happy and sweet boy. He was born in Thailand and he’s just 37 months and 4 days. It was a C-section. We moved here in Denmark when he was almost 7 months. My husband and I are talking both english and danish. I’m talking to him in english and my husband in Danish. He can identify all the letters both upper and lower cases, numbers 1-10 , colors, animal names , some objects both in english and danish. He can sing many nursery songs in english and a few danish songs and even doing the actions. He can say some words or phrases. He enjoys playing peek-a-boo.Copies all my gestures like pointing, clapping, or waving, jumping, running and many more.
He shakes head for no or says nej in danish. Waves bye-bye or farvel in danish. he knows how to take his jacket off . he knows how to put his shoes on and off. But despite that he can do many things already still he cannot communicate to us. if he want something he will just pull my hand and let me get it. Is there something wrong with him or is he just a late talker?I just want to ask your opinion about this. thanks in advance.
Angela says
Hi Sharon… How how are you? It’s been a while since you posted yr concern and I’m so interested in how yr son is doing now cos by Son is EXACTLY as you described. Pls fill me in. Thanks so much
Leah Barros says
Is Echolalia/ scripting in 3.5 yr old always autism there are no other signs. Met all his marks
Melissa says
Hi Dr. Swanson,
We have a lovely 9 month old daughter Belle. Belle has severe GERD with breathing complications and has spent a lot of her infant days in hospitals and in and out of Drs offices which in turn limited her play time. My husband thinks I am overreacting to be concerned but… Belle is a curious child had just recently started crawling, pulls herself up on everything, and cruises. She also walks with a push toy, although she occasionally falls. She plays with toys and uses both hands equally, she babbles all the time but doesn’t say any real words, she said mama and dada for a about a week but has since stopped and not repeated it. She understands no and gets upset when you say no. She doesn’t always respond to her name. Belle just learned to clap if you clap but still doesn’t wave bye bye. Are we on the right track or do I have cause for concern. Thank you from the over worried mama!
Andrew says
Hello,
My son will turn 13 months on the 9th of March. I have concerns about autism. When I call
Marie says
I have a now 10yo that didn’t crawl, ever. Didn’t walk until 18 mo, didn’t talk until 20 mo (only a few words at that), didn’t follow directions well until 2, and didn’t play with other children until she was older as well. My sister in law who is a speech pathologist thought she was in the spectrum, but I lbw she was not. Then she turned three and wouldn’t ask stop taking. I taught her to read by 3 and a half and she could add and subtract by age 4. She is now in a gifgifts and talented program, read at a 7th grade level in 4th grade, and gets practically straight hundreds. She has many friends and is very social. Point is, all children are different and develop differently. My daughter just happened to not want to do anything until she felt like she could do it perfect.
Another Marie says
I am worried about my 27 month old son. He very rarely responds to his name. You could be yelling it, and it is often like he hears nothing, although I know he can physically hear. He does not call us mama or dada, or address us by any name. He can say his abcs pretty well and knew all of his letter sounds at 18 months. He can count to ten fairly consistently and knows lots of shapes, colors, animals, objects, and actions such as trying to brush teeth, brush or comb hair, tries to put on and tie shoes, tries to dress himself, etc. Makes eye contact when playing. Bangs his head when frustrated, especially when we are trying to communicate with him or ask him a question or to follow a simple direction (which he doesn’t do). It seems like he is disconnected, like he knows a lot of information and can repeat us and what he sees in a movie or show, but I can’t tell him to go get his shoes, or put his shoes under the bed or even to give me something he is holding and expect him to do it. He had never clearly followed a one step direction like this. He doesn’t try to communicate with his words as far as saying “milk please” or “me do it” or anything like that. The closest would be when he is done eating he says “all done” or when he wants food he may bring it for me to open and say “thank you” before I do it, in other words, he is saying thank you as a way of asking me to please do it. He reverses other things as well, such as lifting up his arms when he wants me to hold him and saying “come here”, like I say to him when I pick him up. He almost always throws a short fit when my husband or I leave the house, unless we distract him with something else so that he doesn’t see us leave. He loves to laugh and repeat funny things from his favorite shows. He mimics not only words but hand gestures and dancing. I see other kids his age and younger actually talking to and connecting with others and am worried. I did read about apraxia but he didn’t seem to have this other than sometimes stuffing his mouth with food and gagging on new textures. Thanks so much for any help.
Linda says
My son is 18 month old and I have some concerns since he never points and seldom wave. He does have very good eye contact, smiles, says about 6-8 words. He brings toys to me, claps and likes to play peekaboo and other games with us. He started walking by himself at 15 month. He responds to his name and some instructions, like “Kiss mommy” or “Give it to mommy”. When I point things to him, his eyes would follow, but he never points!
Is this something I should worried about?
Thanks so much!
Mary says
Hi !
I have a daughter in university who has a baby, who is now 11 months old, nearing her first birthday. She’s probably fine, but I just want to hear your thoughts, if that’s okay?
I know kids develop differently – done all the schooling! I’m just finding this sweet baby girl a bit different to all babies I’ve known. All of my own kids were walking and talking by their first birthdays. I remember clearly (I’m 40) how they developed in all aspects, and I’m now watching my grand-baby and seeing a very different picture. The child stares at things a lot with big eyes, but doesn’t say a single word or try to copy. I don’t expect her to say ‘Mama’ if she’s just not ready, but I would’ve thought she’d be observing people’s speech, at least. She doesn’t seem to notice or mimic. She has always been unusually quiet for a baby – incredibly easy, it seemed! Yet now I wonder… maybe too quiet? She never freaks out at all and even when she does cry (only when she sees her bottle getting made) it’s a soft and brief little wail. She looks in my eyes and smiles if I smile first, but she doesn’t engage with strangers – kind of ignores everyone. That said, she shows no fear of them whatsoever. She does softly laugh if played with, as long as you’re looking in her eyes and deliberately making her laugh. There are no squeals of delight in her own games, though. The thing she responds most to is if I gently run something down her cheek – I see she really likes it… she goes still and she smiles and half closes her eyes, but no sound. My female family members all think she isn’t responsive enough and doesn’t engage. I don’t know! You can’t read stories to her – she doesn’t comprehend being read to or what books/stories are. Not even picture puzzle books. I try telling her the names of animal puzzle pieces when she picks them up, but she ignores me. It just feels like she isn’t interested or doesn’t associate what I’m saying with the object she’s holding. Doesn’t respond to her name… you can get her attention with tone of voice more than words. No pointing or showing. She does walk along holding the furniture, though. This child is either a super zen baby, or … I don’t know! 🙂 At what age should I be concerned?
Aude says
Hi,
I am really concerning about my 14 month old almost 15 months old.
He doesn’t wave ( use to do it around 11 months if people did it first)
Doesn’t clap at all and doesn’t really point thing. He point since few days after a big work every days many times a days ( point when I ask on books some pictures) and the light after I show him. I loves light Celling fan and things he can turn like the wheel of his car or also the stroller of the cart at the supermarket.
He doesn’t pretend play and doesn’t really play as he throw toys behind him most of the time. when he plays I have to knock on the table and repeat his name many time to focus his attention. However when he do something bad I say no and his name and start to cry and come or look at me. He plays peek a boo and take my hand to take me in his room. I smile and laugh. He use to give us kiss around 9 month but don’t do it again. When he want something he scream cry or try to grab it. He loves to play on my lap before going to the bed touch my nose my lips. Before he use to smile to everybody and now he look at people he doesn’t now curiously. He look like shy and he look at me in the same time. If I talk to them he feels better and smile at them. Doesn’t really speak. Bubble. He also move his arm when he is happy. I am worry a lot
Addie says
I am too worried. My son is 10 months old. His basic nature is quiet.
he babbles, laughs, enjoy peek-a-boo, good eye contact, follow where i point finger (not always though), and sometimes hi-five. he sits, crawls, cruise with help of furniture.
but he does not wave, point, clap and only observe but does not do any of them. He also does not stack or give stuff to me if i ask.
should i be worried?
Lennette Joyce Caspe says
I have a 3 year old son who was diagnosed with GDD I am not worried for my 13 months old daughter. She responded to her name before right away and even now as long as there are no disturbances. She doesn’t clap and doesn’t wave but she babbles and says mommy and papa.
Is there a big chance she also has Global Developmental Delay?
Stephanie Kauffman says
I have a 10-week preemie about to turn chronologically two on the 27th of this month. Her due date would have been October 8th. She is very socially interactive, when she likes someone or choses to be, lol. Very strong-willed and very active. She has excellent receptive language skills. She knows exactly what we are saying to her and she will often respond appropriately with tasks. I do have concerns and we are going to have early intervention come out. She says a word to mimic what we say from time to time but not always on a consistent basis. She says “yeah,” “nah,” “Um,” “momomom,” and “‘ot,” meant to be the word “hot.” Just recently she’s repeated the word “Apple,” only it comes out “app.” Many times she tries to communicate with us and it ends up mimicking the Chinese language in my opinion in sound, not to offend anyone of Asian descent. Or, somedays, she will just point most of the time for what she’d like. My concern is that she appears to want to convey her thoughts, but has difficulty expressing herself. Also, that she really does not use more than a couple words on a regular basis. I would add that I am a SAHM and she is our only child. She has cousins that occasionally come to play and I take her to toddler class mostly once a week. I feel that she used to say mama and dada and now she says only momomom. I know I do anticipate many of her needs, but when I try to have her tell me what she wants, it becomes an ordeal of frustration and tears on her part. I am not willing to endure that over and over again to try and force her to speak. I have tried it many times and it just ends up in tears on both sides. Does anyone else have any experience with an early preemie like this? She makes excellent eye contact, points, is not set in her routine, is not scared by household appliance noises, and interacts nicely with others. She’s beginning to assert herself and test her boundaries, like any other toddler. Any thoughts? Thanks so much!
Sudha says
Hi Doc,
My son is 17months 2weeks old. He is very active, social, point at things, expressive and he use to say 12 words by 14months but then gradually he stopped talking. Now he hardly utter 2 words in a day but all the time he shouts.
I thought it is due to the environment change, before lot people use to interact with him. But now he spend all time with nanny who herself interacts less.
Please suggest.
Sudha says
And to add he started sucking his lower lip from 2 months… and half of time he will be busy in sucking his lower lip
Salomie says
Hi.
I am a concern mom with a 14 months old almost 15 months. She doesn’t respond to her name very often, she will answer sometime only if you are in a different room and call her name. Sometimes she may turn and look at you when you call her name but not for long. She is also afraid of lound noise she covers her ears. Apart from that she speaks more than 50 words, imitates what you do, have good eyecontact, and is friendly. Will point at thing in her book when you read to her. Also look at what you are pointing at. She doesn’t point her ask for what she wants and is not walking.
Annie says
Hi there,
I have a 12 month and 3 weeks old daughter who says mama and its variations every now and then. Meh mum mumum mama etc., other than that there are no other words. She used to chat non stop till she turned about 7 months and her first motar skill i.e. rolling kicked in. Ever since that she continued to develop her motar skills. At 9 months she babbled mama all day for like 3 or 4 days then stopped and I think she focused on crawling. Presently she stands without assistance for a few secs and hold the furniture and takes a few steps.
She follows my point though if she is not interested in what I showed her once she will not look at it again. She doesn’t point in the literal sense though grabs and draws her hands towards the person if she wants to be picked up. She has different sounds for what she wants. She gives me high five (not all the time but upon her will), but doesnt clap or wave as this is not something I taught her to be honest.
She is a very smiley and affectionate baby. Responds to her name, loves playing with children at the day care and even communicates with one of her frds at the daycare. The two of them take turns and talk by making screeching sounds, its actually cute.
My question – do I need to be worried?
Canucksmama says
My son was born almost 4 weeks early . He is 14 months old . He is very very social and happy . He brings his toys to us and loves playing with us. He babbles ( didn’t babble until last month ) but only says bababababa and generally he is not very chatty. What I’m very very worried is that he has no interest in clapping and waving . When I try to show him he gives me a sarcastic look , laughs and pulls his arm. When I try to clap or wave he gets excited and tries to imitate by tapping on the floor or table and jumping up and down . He answers to his name and makes squeaky noises and laughs to grab our attention and make us play with him . he understands no no no and laughs and stop doing and then looks in my eyes and redo it as in lets play it again . He is not walking yet and can walk between objects . Is he behind ? Is he normal for his age ?
Lindsay W says
Hi. My son is 13 months old. He is very outgoing and full of joy. He began saying waving and saying bye-bye around 10 months along with momma and daddy. However, in the last month or so- he has not waved or said bye-bye. I asked his PCP if disappearance of language was normal. She did not seem worried by is and reassured me that at his age there is such a broad range in “normal” and we would monitor it. Any reason for concern or worry?
Arch says
I just want to tell you people that not responding to his/her name doesn’t necessarily mean a child is autistic. Couple of month ago I began to worry to much about my kids situation. I called him by name but he did not react at all, this got me worried so i began to surf through different pages to understand what was the situation. All the information in the web indicated that my boy had to be autistic (no one ever mentioned that not responding to a name is not 100% indicator), but then i got him tested and none of it came out to be true. It seems like he is prone to ADHD. I wanted to share my experience and tell everyone who is in a same situation – Don’t go desperate and don’t get obsessive by observing child too much, your unconscious expectation has an influence and it is not healthy! (i stareted noticing this the very first day we came back from therapist, i called him and even though he was involved in his favorite game he immediately responded back) ! If you have any worries go immediately to a therapist and make a test. Best wishes to all you out there!
Misty says
Not all kids that get vaccines get autism but a neuro toxin is not going to help your health either. vaccines have tripled since i was a kid and autism rates are higher than they ever have been. Its not a fairy tale either. Check into the ingriendents in vaccines. Thimerosal and aluminum formaldehyde…there are adverse vaccine reactions look into the VAERS. Dont bash people for being “anti-vaxers” noone is anti vax they are pro kids just as worried as you about whats healthy and whats not. Children get 76 vaccines by the time they are 6 years old….i think thats a little much. Im not against vaccines but the science with it is a little messed up right now. Safer vaccines need to be made. Many doctors now offer delayed vaccines if there was no reason to be concerned so many docs would not be coming together to be on documentary series like “The truth about vaccines” and ” Vaxxed” dont bash each other just do your own research.
Beth Bishop says
I have two sensitive sons, but they are sensitive in much different ways. My younger son is very extroverted, so people tend to miss his sensitivity, and then get frustrated when something happens and he doesn’t just go along with them. I have looked at both of these books before, but haven’t read either yet. I will read them now!
Alex says
Hi,
My daughter is 11 months and isn’t crawling and doesn’t know her name. She is very affectionate. Recognizes who people are and loves peek a boo, “if you’re happy and you know it”, & “patty cake. She hears very well and recognizes what certain words are but makes no gestures and won’t answer to her name. She will make eye contact but other times she won’t. I’ve contacted early intervention and I am waiting to hear back. No kne in my family or my husband’s has been diagnosed with Autism, but my mommy gut it telling that it could be. I know I’m putting the cart well before the horse, and she was born at 36 weeks, by way of emergency c section, but I’m just worried. She’s my first born and she isn’t hitting any of the milestones. Has anyone else experienced this?
Nan says
Hi Alex … Even I have same problem like u with my baby… I’m getting stress n worried more about this… Can u help me if u find any solution please
Ap says
I was hoping someone would be able to give me some clarity. My son is 25months. Is saying 2 word sentences, very loving, very busy, plays with his cousins and always asks for his family. At pre school he doesn’t listen to the teachers avoids them and the other kids and throws toys. He’s always been a little aggressive with his toys but at home we play with him and that helps a lot. Good days and bad days with listening well at home. always grabs our hand to bring us places and using words to tell us what he wants even if we can’t understand. the school thinks he’s delayed and wants him assessed. I’m really stressed about it and don’t know what to think if I’m missing something and he is on the spectrum or delayed. I’m going crazy with worry about his behaviours there and not sure how to help. open to tips. thanks
nyisha Smith says
My child is 17 months he started walking late with the help of therapy. He doesn’t talk at all other than da da or eat eat. He doesn’t look you in your eyes. He will look for a moment then look away. He doesn’t respond to his name. He shakes his head no but doesn’t say it. He doesn’t really eat table food. I buy him toddler milk. His doctor is about to send him to speech therapy as well. He doesn’t do Patty cake. He laughs a lot and hums. He is very active and smart. I say he is smart because of all the things he does on his own. We thought maybe he had a hearing problem, but I don’t think so. If you put this favorite cartoons on he comes and watches them. He will watch his favorite TV shows. I’m kinda scared at this point. My other children (I have 7 children total) didn’t have any delays if anything they where early starters. Also my son didn’t get his first tooth until he was almost one. If anyone has any information or anything or if they are dealing with something similar please feel free to reply.
Maiza says
My son is 23 months old. He waves and says tata for goin out.he cals ma name..and plays with me.hide and seek and all..he does not point and grabs ma hand if he wants something.he responds to his name…he looks where I point…but doesn’t look when I point to top…shud I be worried
Louise says
Hi bit worried on how my 3 year old behaviour they say his fine at his new nursery but at him he can get very naughty also when his grand parents are arround. His very figity even when having food also plays with his food all the time. Also ask really silly questions if you say like right no telly time he could say what telly etc. When his said he always sings to him self twinkle twinkle little star. He repeats what i or others say quite a lot also he interrupts conversations. I can shop with him or take him places as can get too naughty. But he does have good memories also good imagination. Should i be worried on his behaviour? I did see a well nurse about all this but just said its his age but i think its something bit more. Please tell me should i be worried?
Koray Ferah says
Hi
My 22 month daughter knows more than 750 words (I listed the words). She can learn the name of things quickly and never forgets. She can count to 20 and recognizes numbers. She gives a few one word comments to us like “read, open, help”. When she sees things around she says their names (tree, car, sofa, water, dog, see etc) but she uses limited number of words to interact. She says wellcome when we arrive. She tells her name and surname when asked. Sings more then ten songs. She sings too often (may be because we made her listen to songs while eating). She echos words and sings out of context. She can say mom and dad but does not adress us by saying momy or dady. She calls us honey or dear (imitates the way we call her). She can clap but does not wave bye bye. She points pictures on the book but does not point things around and does not use pointing for asking for things. She has perfect eye contact. Smiles back when you smile. She rarely responds to name when she’s called. After I realized she did not wave, point and respond to name, I started to bring her into game groups in which she spends time with toddlers from 25 to 36 months. She has shown no improvement for over a month. Still does not respond to name and point. I have been trying to teach but she doesn’t respond. She is playing with other kids, loves being with friends, keeps eye contact and interaction with peera, but does not respond to directions like sit down, wait, give or take. She has never watched TV. Wathes fairy tales for ten minutes everyday.
I don’t know if something is wrong but she seems to be different from her peers. Is there any one else having similar isues. I know not responding to name and pointing is red flag fot autisim. Should I be worried?
Awais says
I am a father of 30 month old boy. He recently moved away from a family enviornment (about 5 months ago) where he had his 2 aunts, mother and grandpa consistently around him. Now he is mostly with his mother “during the day” and then in the evening, myself and mother both are in the house.
He has this love for numbers (He can count upto 100) and alphabets (knows A – Z and keeps singing ABC in diffrent tunes) and shapes (can identify almost every shape including rombus, diamond, pentagon, octagon, arrow etc and also all the colors).
He used to be interactive with his aunt and used to respond when she called his name and also called out her name. He shows affection to me and every one who treats him well, but he does not look at the person or responds when his name is called now. If we call his name 10 times he wont respond and keep on doing whatever he might be doing and if the 11th time we say “OK we are going, bye-bye” he leaves every thing and comes runing towards me or his mother. I feel he does not make eye contact with me when I am playing with him, but he is smiling and gigling most of the time. If he is listing to rhymes, he does not look at anything else. I feel he gives more attention to TV and rhymes on youtube. (the mother used it as distraction as he dances and enjoys them a lot) He sings a whole rhyme, remembers sentences but does not talk to us. If he needs any thing, he will come to me grab my finger and take me to the thing and then make whiny noises until he gets it OR he will try to obatin the object himself.
He runs pretty well (rather too quick) and dances with music and all.
His mother is really upset that he does not respond to whetever comand she gives him, niether does he listen to any commmand from me (like put the glass back, get down from sofa.. etc)
We recently put him in daycare, he takes more interest in things rather than other kids (builds lego, plays with alphabets and numbers and is extremly fond of writting on things with anything he can find (Pen, keys, any pointy thing)
I would really appriciate if some experienced parent or professional can help me to identify if this behaviour is something to do with Autism? How can I change is behaviour to respond to us and communicate better?
MohanRao says
Hi
My Kid is 2 years old .
he responds to his name very late 2 in 5 times and he is goes somewhere if we calls with his name he turns back and stay. and he responds to his any music he looks and if we sing any rhyme he looks to us immediately.
He plays with chiildren and he play peak a boo and he plays with evry toy.
He has eye contact.
Does my child is autistic.
NP says
Hi Doc
My 15mo old stopped responding to his name often , only he is responding seeing me if I sang his favorite song. He is walking fine.
Not seeing new peopl crying few mins, after sometime he is ok but still not seeing eye to eye…
Is it autism.
Eliot woo says
Hello i have a question and i cant seem to find thw answer through medical providers, his speech theorists My son will be 3 next month, he was born full term @5 pound 10 ounces. I had a healthy pregnancy w/ no complications (litterly 1 hour delivery & he’s my only child also. He was mostly normal the first 3 or 4 days then he seemed to be fussy alot and I noticed he was definitely constipated. Needless to say the months a head to specialist such as GI and ent trying to fingure out what was wrong withh this poor baby… turns out they diagnosed him w/collic and gi issues. Said it should pass by rhe time hes a little over 1 i cant say that it did but he dis hit all his mile stones like sitting up , rolling over ect on point /some even eaerlier than exspected. He used a few words at age one … mom, dad, ball, car, baby ect… car qas his first word at 7 months witch as a new mom I thought was pretty amazing. Needless to say fast fwd till about now…. i finally at about 2 1/2 decided it was best to get him speech seeing he wasnt gaining a large vocabulary the speech teach thought it would be a good idea to teach him sign language to help him eventually learn to use morw word well yep that backfired because once she thpugh him the sighns more and please thats all he used because he was tought i get what i want by using these… in turn he stopped really using the words he had been using. At that point I was furious (all my work to help my son and she just ruined it) well i insisted we stop sighning at once and his words came back …very very slowly that is because he has to re learn that those signs arent going to cut it. I finally decided she was not a fit for my don so we now have a new therapist. No new words though and he wont immitate me if i say the words he clearly knows. But here is the kicker…. he knows his name looks/and cones to me when called, if I ask him where a certain letter or color is ge can point to it. He knows his train charters too if i ask him where say Thomad is or percy or whom ever… h also follows directions… sit down , pick that up, give me 5 , kiss ect so idk i dont get it please give me your thoughts.. ps its tuff on me my husband works 50+ hours aweek and im home w/him and litterly have no help family or other qnd in 3 yeqrs never once had a sitter.
Raj says
Hello Dr.,
My daughter is now 2 yrs and 4 months. She never responds to her name. But when we play carton or rhymes (very low volume) she immediately turns around and come and check the mobile/computer. Also never called us mama or papa..etc Some time waves hands if go to work. Sometimes she lines up 3 to 5 small toys. But do not concentrate more on lining up. I even collapsed the lines of toys and she doesn’t care..not crying..But many times she use to circumvent me or her mother or both of us. When we sit at one corner she wont revolve around us. When we point something she looks into that. During sleep she prefer to sleep on her mother tummy..But now rarely she sleeps like that. Do you think it is autism? Doctors told us that it is now impossible to say, but they informed us it seems to be minimal (MCHAT-6 or 7). One bad thing: Whenever we go out for a walk she take something like stone and keep with her..4 months before she use to carry tooth brush in her hand…very much obsessed. But now not. If we leave the room and go to another room she will also come with us. If she need water she tries to take water bottle and show/give..it means she is thirsty. Otherwise she take her mother with her to the place where the water bottle is there. We already started OT and Speech therapy (10 hr per week). Are there anyone here same like my daughter? Any idea how we can make her to respond to call?
Worried, THanks.
Pubali says
Hi
My LO is two today, she is a NEC survivor, she had low birth weight (IUGR) now she is meeting her physical milestones but I always feel that she is bit slow than her peers. She responds to her name but not always eg. When I call her from a different room she comes running looking for me, but when I call her from a short distance she does not respond and does not make an eye contact. I really don’t understand this as she makes proper eye contact when she wishes but not when I talk to her. She only makes eye contact when I sing, play, make funny or interesting things. E.g. I keep calling her name 3 times she won’t look but the moment I start singing or say who wants to play she immediately comes up. She makes lot of social communications… greets me when I come home, waves, smiles, plays a lot of pretend play like peek-a-boo or feeding or brushing a dolly. She imitates , She plays in the park with other kids, she plays appropriately, she has very good observation , she communicates with strangers, non ritualistic, no problem with loud noise or textures, at home she understands simple commands she communicates with gestures as she has very limited words. We got her hearing checked and she has glue ear but doc said it is not causing a huge problem. Another thing I want to mention she was highly exposed to TV and iPad but now stopped and it was easy as she did not throw much tantrums. I want to know what is the problem with her? I will be relocating to Helsinki soon so I want to know what kind of therapy I can get if need be and What could be the waiting time? I have another 8 year old who is perfectly fine. I am very very worried. Please advise
jenny whitelock says
I’m afraid this list is flawed. Autism is often progressive and/or includes regression. My daughter did all these things listed on time just as you’ve listed. She is 3.5 years old now and profoundly autistic.
Ashutosh says
Hi,
My son 3 years & 6 months old. Now going to school also. Still not speaking properly, No mama, some time Papa said, its depend upon their mood, otherwise used different types of word.
I conduct BARA Test and result is OK no problem found.
Now we are waiting for their proper speak.
annabel says
Hi
Please i need help on my 2 year and 4 month old son, he is always afraid of someone he seion with 8 month and even crying for that person i feel is not normal please is there anything i would do for him not to be afraid junior once?
Julianna Roche says
Hi Dr.,
If my son just started to respond to his name at 18 months, is it still a red flag for autism? At 15 months he didn’t respond at all, and now he will turn at look at us, unless he is deeply engaged in playing with something or a show. We have him getting special instruction and speech through early intervention (its only been one week so far), but I was just curious. He was showing other signs of autism (no waving or clapping) but now he is doing this more consistently, just very late (started at 17 months). He pretend plays and is constantly pulling my hand for me to walk with him/play with him/constantly lifting his arms up to be picked up. He babbles a lot, looks at us for attention when he babbles, and sometimes tries to say “beep beep” or “uh oh” but that’s it. I see him progressing and not losing skills, and am wondering if he is just developmentally delayed. Either way, we are getting him as many services as possible and early for the best outcome, I just wanted to know your thoughts. Thank you!!
Julianna Roche says
I also wanted to mention he will babble mama and dada, but I don’t think he knows that we are mama and dada (he says it without purpose still). Thank you!
Josh says
My son was saying about 5 words at the age of 1but he’s 2 now and as he gotten older he stop saying words like he doesn’t say anything
Lilly Crittenden says
My granddaughter is autistic. Even so, she is learning new words every week. She can sing a song note by note, after hearing it only once. She will make eye contact with family members only. Our biggest problem is, she is 4 years old, almost 4 feet tall and 45 pounds, but she’s still not potty trained. Do you have any suggestions? Sometimes she will go pee in the potty, but she will not go poop. She can start passing gas, and my daughter takes her to the toilet, but she won’t go. But as soon as she takes her off, she poops in her pants. Another thing, she won’t let anyone read to her. If you try, she will take the book away from you and close it. Any help will be greatly appreciated. Thank you
Gerell says
My son was breeched and now he’s 21m and not talking or eating food only in bottle mixed food not using hands right
He notices bit in his bottle and picks the food bits out his mouth he’ll pick a peeled pair but won’t bite it but what I never seen is he bites wool off materials before sucking his bottle won’t use cup
Ridd says
Hi,
My son is 30 months old, he does not says and recognizes mama and papa. I showed him to neurologist, and after the analysis, they said that my son has mild autism and will have to go through Auti and speech therapy. So we had undergone both the therapy and simultaneously I have put him in a play group. After 2 months, he speaks out almost all the English alphabets and numbers (1 to 10) , sings few nursery rhymesby looking at the videos. However does not says mama and papa nor does he knows who is mama and papa. he operates mobile learning apps very well and plays videos on youtube.
I am worried as in what exactly the problem is since I have observed many kids starts talking after 4 to 5 years also.
Kindly suggest.
Hamdy says
My 22 month old son is doing all the list except number 1,4 and 5 .. not responding to his name,
Before eye contact was ok but few month ago start to decrease obviously even in photo and now
Lack of eye contact and also talk only mama , baba , tata , ana but also colud told me mama and his mother tata and his grand baba or mama
Is that ok ?
ST says
Hi Doc,
I just need some opinions cause I am worrywot!!!
My son turned two in jan. He was born at 36 weeks and with hypoglycaemia which was treated and he was home within 10 days. He was also IUGR by the way of placental issues. He also had an amino while in there and that came back perfect.
He is super intelligent in acedemics:
– can count till 25
– can tell u all alphabets including what they are for
– sing full rhymes remembering all the words
– hubby taught him colours within 30 mins and he can now tell u the correct ones
But my issues are:
– he doesn’t really respond when we call his name (very rarely and sometimes with different tones)
– he makes eye contact when he wants which is rare but does give attention while watching tv or when he wants to speak to us, i have been consciously trying to get him to make more and it seems to be working;
– sometimes (very rarely, like for less than 5 seconds) he walks on his toes
– he is limited with food but doesn’t really care about textures, he eats fruits, crackers, popcorn, cheese, biscuits, noodles and rice and yogurt.
Background
– he loves cuddles when I put my arms out he comes running, gets super excited to see mum
– if he does something naughty and I call his name in a warning tone he runs
– he doesn’t care about materials or clothes
– he doesn’t much care for particular routine, I was able to get him to give up a dummy in less than a day last week
– he comes and gives us kisses, also gives kisses to extended family members
– he plays with his brother and very limited pretend play
-he loves to give us his number blocks or coloured cars for our attention, he would come seek us and now colours as well or a difficult toy that he wants help with;
– he also plays with toys right, he doesn’t line them up (did it for like 3-4 days early in the year then never again) and doesn’t play with wheels only
Angela Le says
My son is almost 16 months. He does play peekaboo, smile, has good eye contact, likes to sit on my lap and play, babbles, uses index finger to touch stuff such as books or shirts, reach out to be carried, does clapping, and sometimes wave. What I’m concerned is he DOES NOT point in a distance, grab my hand to show what he wants, hand me any items, has not said any real words yet, doesn’t like to eat, only cries when he’s hungry or sleepy, sometimes plays and stares at his fingers for about 1-2 minutes at a time, when he walks he tends to move his left arm forward and backward a lot like when adults are moving their arms while walking.
Do you think he has autism?